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BlueBelle Fri 05-Apr-19 07:10:18

Whatever do you mean ‘in love’ there will be many boyfriends and many ‘ in loves’ She’s 14 and starting out on the road of meeting boys
You ll still be wondering and worrying and she ll already be on her next boyfriend
You shouldn’t be worrying about it because honestly it’s not our business as grandparents who our grandkids are friends or ‘going out’ with unless they tell us or ask our opinion which is HIGHLY unlikely

gransal Fri 05-Apr-19 00:35:11

PADDYANN ifs he was 18 when she met her first boyfriend how could she meet and marry when she was 14. Have I got it wrong ?

paddyann Fri 05-Apr-19 00:24:44

he may not be "in love with her " at that age not all relationships are serious ,not mr right..just mr right now .

paddyann Fri 05-Apr-19 00:23:18

My daughters first boyfriend was 4 years older than her ,they got engaged when she was 18 and he was 22,split up when she was 21 .She then followed family tradition and married a man who was younger than her ,She was a very mature 14 year old when she met him and he was quite immature for 18..so they met in the middle .

Momof3 Thu 04-Apr-19 23:49:18

As it is I agree with you and if she tried to get birth control the health professionals would have concerns to about the age difference.

Unfortunately though it’s none of your business I assume Mom is taking a watch and see approach and has her fingers crossed that it burns itself out. Hoping that he’ll get bored of not being an adult.

Also I assume Mom is trying to not push her daughter away and into risky situations.

Sussexborn Thu 04-Apr-19 23:48:13

Really depends on the 14 year old and 18 year old. Have you met the boyfriend? The problem is that if anyone interferes it will just make him seem more romantic and desirable.

crazyH Thu 04-Apr-19 23:44:50

Dinno, I'm an owl, so you're ok - no apologies needed.
I have a 15 year old granddaughter and I don't think she has a boyfriend yet, at lleast, not that I know of. She stays some weekends with me and that's all she does is, go to the town with her friends (day ) , returns by 5. Now, I'm sure the friends she goes to town with include boys. But I don't think there is any one special. Well ..............

DINNNO Thu 04-Apr-19 23:30:22

Apologies for posting so late, this has been on my mind.

My granddaughter is 14. I recently got informed by her mum (my daughter) that my GD has a new boyfriend, whom just so happens to be four years older than her, 18. According to my daughter, this is my GD's first boyfriend.

The problem I have with this is that they're at different stages of their lives, and I don't think it would work out. I don't see what an 18 year old would want from a 14 year old and struggle to see how he could genuinely be in love with her. Don't get me wrong my GD is a lovely girl however I'm not sure of the intentions of my GD's boyfriend, and obviously don't want my GD to get hurt.

AIBU to feel that a relationship between a 14yo and 18yo isn't appropriate?