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Is it me?

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Atqui Fri 10-May-19 14:11:34

I’m seeking reassurance that I’m normal! If you walked into a room in the evening where your partner was just pottering ( not reading or concentrating)! and you said “ I’m going up to have a bath now”, wouldn't you expect a response such as “0k see you soon”? Mine ignored me so I repeated what I said twice. I was told ( when I asked why) that it was a statement and didn’t need a response.
Is it me?

Alima Fri 10-May-19 14:14:32

No, I think they go on a course for this sort of buggerance factor. Mine got the diploma.

Yorksherlass Fri 10-May-19 14:26:40

Mine too, I played him at his own game and he said that I was going deaf ! It was fun though , might start again ha ha .

GrannyGravy13 Fri 10-May-19 14:29:35

Yep mine has that certificate also!!!

Anniebach Fri 10-May-19 14:37:14

So if you say ‘i have won the lottery’ it will be dismissed as a statement ?

ninathenana Fri 10-May-19 14:43:34

Annie grin

Luckygirl Fri 10-May-19 14:50:53

I used to joke that I could enter the room naked and he would not look up! His Mum warned me when I married him that if I wanted to speak to him whilst reading he would finish his sentence, put his finger on his place, and slowly look up. She said it drove her mad.

janeainsworth Fri 10-May-19 14:59:07

Atqui is your DH an engineer by any chance?

Cabbie21 Fri 10-May-19 15:18:48

Join the club. No, he is not an engineer.

Atqui Fri 10-May-19 15:23:25

No Jane not an engineer. Could think of some other words but better not print them!

Atqui Fri 10-May-19 15:25:04

So far it seems my H is the normal one then!!!!

Atqui Fri 10-May-19 15:25:51

In the mathematical sense of the wordsmile

Nonnie Fri 10-May-19 15:50:43

But do they do it to other people?

Mapleleaf Fri 10-May-19 15:53:24

I would expect at least an OK. Very rude of him, really, to ignore you.

BlueSapphire Fri 10-May-19 17:01:46

Luckygirl, my DH used to do that. Drove me crackers!

Tedber Fri 10-May-19 17:06:03

Hahaha....same here! Get same response...."you didn't ask a question"! Drives me nuts too.....but in grand scale of things not worth getting upset over! Maybe a 'man' thing smile

Atqui Fri 10-May-19 17:06:44

Nonnie - I doubt it- butter wouldn’t melt !

Atqui Fri 10-May-19 17:08:29

I could understand it if they were reading or watching something !

M0nica Fri 10-May-19 20:30:28

If DH does that it is because he has';t heard what I said. Does he have a hearing problem? He assures me that he doesn't. hmm

Littleannie Fri 10-May-19 20:51:04

I have to say everything twice to my husband before he responds. Drives me crackers.
Is he hard of hearing? Yes.
Does he have hearing aids? Yes.
Will he wear them? NO

GrandmaKT Fri 10-May-19 21:00:38

Ladies, you are missing a trick here! My DH is exactly the same, never listens or acknowledges anything when I tell him. I therefore use it to my advantage, slip out to the shops/cinema/out with friends etc. If he ever queries it, I say "I told you, but you never listen!"

Marilla Sat 11-May-19 09:27:05

So reassuring that it’s not just in this household!

ecci53 Sat 11-May-19 09:29:02

Mine is just the same, doesn't respond to comments. I've started doing the same with him, but it feels so rude.

David1968 Sat 11-May-19 09:35:29

Try adding the words: "....because I want to be clean and beautiful for my 39 year old lover, who is calling for me in an hour's time....." And even : "So I may see you some time tomorrow.....if I have the strength....."

DoraMarr Sat 11-May-19 09:36:07

Oh dear, this brought a chill to me. I remember my ex husband began to do this: I would repeat what I had said, and he would snap “ I heard you the first time!” And he would say “I answered you!” Once, my daughter was with us, and she challenged him: “dad, you didn’t answer.”