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Breasts bums and muffin tops!

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Namsnanny Sun 12-May-19 14:29:09

The suns out and it’s that time again!
Can’t stand to see normal men rubber necking (twisting their necks this way and that) yo get a glimpse of young girls wobbly bits, which are more than on show this time of year!
Men’s reactions aside, I just don’t like seeing so much flesh on show, no matter what age or gender!
Before anyone asks, I too was as senseless as today’s youth, and wore revealing clothing in yesteryear!!
I guess things never change really.

nipsmum Tue 14-May-19 12:06:03

I was drivng from the supermarket and nearly had a accident when a motorcyclist passed me and all I could see was bare backside. It was not a pretty sight, and something I can never unsee. Yuck.

PamGeo Tue 14-May-19 12:07:02

I'm with Bradford Lass on the generous portions of my little body, I'm simply not tall enough. In my younger days ... up until maybe my mid 40's I was a lot slimmer but defiantly not comfortable with how I was. I'm now 60, live near the cornish beaches with my much younger 2nd hubby (who wears shorts and flip flops a lot ) I also have a tattoo which I love which is large and on my back. My dad in particular comments every summer when the jumpers and cardigans are no longer covering it up as he doesn't like women with tattoo's. I'm living my life for me, I've had a psychotic narcissist ex husband controlling my life for 30 years and he took over from my parents, so I try to be who I am, I enjoy the sunshine, I'm encouraged to ignore other people as they aren't aware of how little time I have left to enjoy these days before I'm too old and frail to take part in life. ..... I do however, ask "does my bum look big in this ?" or, "I know this is nice, but does it look nice on me ?" I also have mirrors around the house which perhaps some people don't have lol Let's just enjoy the life we have and stop judging too harshly

Legs55 Tue 14-May-19 12:33:03

nipsmum that made me laugh but I'm sure you'll never get that image out of your mind.

I have been out to the Library & shopping this morning in knee length shorts & a vest top. I'm 63, far from slim. I was only out for about an hour then I will be in the garden for the rest of the day. Some of you may think this isn't suitable but I'm comfortable & living in a very touristy area full of "grockles" I don't look out of placegrin

I'm another that dislikes pregnant women displaying naked baby bumps, why do they do it, it's a very "look at me, aren't I clever" statement, please cover up. I find that as offensive as flabby men with no tops on.

I was very slim, quite tall in my younger days, mini skirt, hot pants but I had & still have long slim legs bum & belly a bit bigger these days grin

Hellsgrandad Tue 14-May-19 12:34:08

Just a thought ladies - if this conversation was being conducted by men they would all be accused of being body shaming sexists by the @metoo brigade

pinkquartz Tue 14-May-19 12:47:46

I am appalled by the nastiness of many of the above comments.
Is it anyone else's business really how another person wants to dress?
The comments that such and such is "common" is just plain rude.
What does "common" mean?
So if a young woman is overweight you want her covered up?

BusterTank Tue 14-May-19 13:54:54

I always tell my daughter dress classy not nasty .

Rosina Tue 14-May-19 13:57:37

I have seen some sights in our local high streets. There are people who, sadly, cannot have either a full length mirror or a tactful friend. I don't think it is catty to notice that someone is doing the reverse of making the best of themselves; a skin tight garment over rolls of fat is unsightly and also uncomfortable - I know this because I have a few rolls, and a top that fits properly looks a lot better and is more comfortable. I don't believe in cosmetic surgery, mad diets etc. but surely wearing something that fits reasonably is not too difficult, and noticing is something that can't be helped- your gaze has to land somewhere!

GrannyMosh Tue 14-May-19 14:02:48

Very well said, Judie!!

annodomini Tue 14-May-19 14:16:46

Cropped top. tiny shorts...and Ugg boots. Surely the height of British couture.

Overthehills Tue 14-May-19 14:30:43

On the other side of the coin - today I saw a slim young woman in a shortish skirt and top with beautifully cut long shiny hair - she made my morning (after I’d been to the dentist!).
I don’t mind how fat anybody is, it’s their business, but I just don’t really want to see their flesh in the flesh!

Amagran Tue 14-May-19 15:30:33

I am with you pinkquartz. Physical appearance is not the only way of viewing attractiveness/unattractiveness. The things we say and do can be similarly judged by others.

fluff Tue 14-May-19 15:44:36

Rather sad the number of people on here who are so judgemental, I think some of the comments are outrageous! To say that fat people could just diet ... absolute rubbish, some people have medical disorders that make this extremely difficult, as for me I had thyroid cancer when I was 26, it’s incredibly difficult to lose weight as a result and has been a constant battle over the last 33 years, if my size is offensive to you then look away your opinions quite frankly are offensive to me, so if I have to cover up then you have to sew your mouth shut.

Ellie Anne Tue 14-May-19 16:08:35

I’m a bit tubby so try ro keep covered up.
But if you have an ugly face ther is not much you can do about it

grandtanteJE65 Tue 14-May-19 16:22:18

My pet hate is elderly men with their big fat beer guts on display! Some of them wear such short shorts that we can see various bits and pieces that only concern their wives when they sit down too!

I had a long discussion while still teaching with a class of sixteen year old girls who felt they should be able to wear exactly what they wanted anywhere and everywhere and be treated with respect.

They didn't believe me when I said they were asking rather too much of any red-blooded young man if they walked around showing their admirable cleavage, plus the ring in their belly button.

The boys in the class laughed when I asked the girls how they expected the lads to concentrate on English grammar with all those beautiful bosoms just under their noses!

farview Tue 14-May-19 16:22:44

I'm with Pollyanna2...live and let live... regarding how people want to dress or decorate their skin..

farview Tue 14-May-19 16:29:32

...I also think that some of the comments on here are truly nasty..

nanaK54 Tue 14-May-19 17:43:43

So do I farview sad

Alexa Tue 14-May-19 19:37:51

"The boys in the class laughed when I asked the girls how they expected the lads to concentrate on English grammar with all those beautiful bosoms just under their noses!"

Quite right , grandetante! It's good to be aware of the psychological effects of fashions. by the tone of some of the comments here visitors to old people's homes should cover up and conceal most of their skins and every detail of how their body fat is distributed.

Boosgran Tue 14-May-19 19:44:59

Agree KatyK people are huge these days and its it’s going to be a serious problem in the next few years, putting a strain on the NHS with weight related health problems.

Bijou Tue 14-May-19 21:25:45

In hot weather it is cooler to wear loose clothes rather than tight short shorts.
There were many women in town looking as though they were dressed for the beach and pregnant women with bare baby bumps.

moggie57 Tue 14-May-19 23:06:07

me ./i'm old fashioned .no push up bras to display over ripe melons.am always covered up decently..today had black trousers /leggings .t shirt and a hoodie...i like being warm...there is a lady near me that likes to wear flourescent pink jumpsuit (no knickers)you can tell.. and top half in open to the elements. she looks ?????.. wait for it she must be late 70's. oh yuk. makes me cringe .but she minces down the high street like she's a blast from the 1970's.!!! certainly turns some heads..

Baloothefitz Wed 15-May-19 03:42:34

Oh my goodness...HOW fattist are Gransnetters?

NfkDumpling Wed 15-May-19 08:33:25

Very Baloo!

I used to catch a bus home at the same time and stop as a couple of lads recently come from the Middle East somewhere. Their English was basic but they were nice respectful lads. However, in hot weather, the large women who walked past the stop in skimpy shorts and vest tops with no bras made them oogle and, even speaking in a language I couldn't understand, I knew exactly what they were saying. And I have to say, prude that I am, I understood why.

allassinsane Wed 15-May-19 09:09:22

I generally think live and let live, though I don't like to see someone deliberately wearing something that's overly provocative, as in skimpy tops showing too much cleavage, bum cheeks peeping out from micro shorts etc. It's just attention seeking but I suppose that's what some people want. I agree it may be the wrong type of attention but young girls don't often realise the reaction they're getting.

I wear kneelength shorts and vests and strappy sundresses in the garden and on holiday. If I go out ie. shopping or pub garden I'll take a top or cardi to cover up a bit. Bit self conscious of arms.

I don't mind tattoos, though I think it's a fad that will fade eventually, just like the tattoos!

Lily65 Wed 15-May-19 09:15:26

I tend to cover up and always have done, even when I was young and gorgeous.

Each to their own, some people are too poor to afford anything but the dreaded leggings and vest look.