Having been unexpectedly invited for tea and cake one sunday afternoon to a new neighbour's expensive home (I live in a Shared Ownership home) I believed my husband and I had found new friends. However, this relationship has now begun to affect my mental health as I am constantly being 'stalked' by this woman 3 or 4 times a week, when she simply turns up at my front door expecting to be let in or inviting me.
When I go to hers she makes sure her husband has been sent to wash the car or cut the grass, which I think is a bit weird. She contantly brings me 'gifts' and old reading books which I haven't asked for but which she says she won't then have to take to the charity shop.
She appears to use me as a sounding block talking voraciously about what she and her husband to each day and what walk they've been on, in rediculous detail. If I try to chip in she will even say "changing the subject completely" and get back to what she wants to say. This woman is not a friend as a friend would also "listen" and know when not to arrive.
As I suffer from chronic depression, which she is fully aware of, I find it difficult to assert myself. I feel now that I am being 'cotrolled', especially when she gets angry if my husband dares to take time of work, with comments like "doesn't he ever go to work!" She is also mildly racist about my husband of 33 years who is of West Indian descent.
I can't even use my garden now as she hangs out of her upper windows trying to get my attention, even at weekends when my husband is at home and all we want is a bit of peace!
Help! I've had enough. Sitting here with a sign on my front door saying "please do not disturb (unwell) and feeling very trapped!
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