If you had given your grandson for Xmas...

Oh Gonegirl your crossed out comment did make me laugh.
It's a minefield isn't it, trying not to upset the little darlings.
I'm lucky with my adult GC but they're perhaps older and more tolerant.
My eldest has just been to Glastonbury with her husband as they do every year. She knows I went to the early ones and this year she sent me a FB photo of her in front of a huge tarpaulin with TATTY on it in colourful letters. Tatty is what my GCs call me so I was thrilled.
Don't yet know if they made it or found it in situ.
Anyway, gone off piste a bit but don't worry GG your grandson obviously loves his hoodie.

Thank you Callistemon, I hadn’t even thought of that !

Another link, a bit more up-to-date:
www.greenpeace.org.uk/thank-letter-amazon-reef-north-sea/

I'd be very pleased he was still wearing it. Obviously likes it enough for statement stuff. Double whammy methinks.

My grand son had the slogan I want to be a unicorn on it. So I went and brought him one that said that and he loved it.
you grandson is just making it personal which is important at that age. It is his hoodie you gave it to him but it was not quite to his taste.
There is much worse thing he could have done. Chill.

Also, I would advise do not comment on Instagram not cool, every one can see it and its not cool. If you must say something private massage what’s app him but I personally would see it as self-expression and be glad he feels he can be expressive.

grandtanteJE65 - it's never too late for anyone to change, teenager or otherwise.

Well I wouldn’t touch Instagram with a barge pole.
Shame that what is put on there isn’t forgotten in an instant.

I would amuse myself and punish him , by having a matching T shirt made which says Back Off BP and giving it to him for his next birthday/Xmas ! But that’s my sense of humour.

I would be proud of his social conscience and strength of character to display how he feels.
And I would not post anything online because for everyone to see and it could have unforeseen consequences for the recipient.
Your grandson is developing his own individual unique personality and also wearing something you bought him, which is a compliment in itself.

HannahLoisLuke ^ but don't worry GG your grandson obviously loves his hoodie^.

Yeah, but does he still love me?!! [worried emoji]

So, the overall opinion is that, Yes, I was being unreasonable.

I agree. Totally. Howl!!! Feel so bad. Can't even message him to say sorry cos he won't put me on his Whatsapp.

It was British petroleum they were demonstrating against. Some of them were dressed as take-offs of Romeo and Juliet. Called themselves Petroleo and Fuliet.

Not at all. You don't buy someone something to keep control over it. He is not you.

Gonegirl of course he still loves you, he may sulk or ignore you for a few days its all normal teenage stuff.
It will take more than that to break the unconditional bond that's if he’s anything like my grandson that is.

Well Gonegirl you will have to forget it and move on or try what they did in the olden days, see him, ring him or send a postcard.

"See him" is easier said than done. Even his mother doesn't see much of him these days!

Yes, you're right pinkjj27 . I know he still loves me really.

I kinda like the way people personalise their things. I'd be pleased he thought it good enough to do that.

Enjoy his individualism, it has gven him pleasure which is what giving is all about xx

When you've given a present it's theirs to do whatever they wish with it. It's too late now, but if I was miffed about what he'd done I'd keep my thoughts to myself.

I used to buy expensive presents for my son and he used to give them away to friends who admired them, once I passed a friend of his on the street who was wearing a warm coat I had bought my student son. When I asked why he had given it away he said "he needed it more than me". He is now 52 and I have just had to accept that he is not interested in possessions so I find alternatives. His choice

He obviously wanted to wear the hoodie so he must like it. Just thought he'd customise the slogan. I'd embrace his inventiveness tbh. Smart GS. And yes, never ever make a comment on social media . Not cool!

Gonegirl thanks for the explanation. Will ask DS about this as maybe strikes a slight recognition! I think I would just be happy it was being worn and maybe vaguely proud he liked it enough to add this slogan. It's very hard to get the hoodies, teeshirts right as they change their favourite things so quickly and my DGS1 is only 5! However DD1 has given DD2 passed on clothes so now seeing them on DGS2! DGD has never varied - fairies and Disney Princesses - maybe that's a girl thing but only 2 (going on 12) so will wait and see.

He's wearing it. He's just adapted it to reflect his own views. I don't think you should feel upset or offended and, in any case, it would be a bad idea to express your annoyance.

I believe BP has a very bad record in terms of serious degradation of less wealthy countries' natural environments, eg Mexico and Colombia.

I bought my DGS a red hoody with a slogan about his football team and he loved it. He lives with me and his Dad part of the week and as usual he took it back to his Mum's and never brought it back here to wear again so I bought him another one. Guess what?... That one has ended up at mum's too along with two other of his favourites, several pairs of shorts, trackie bottoms, T shirts and his swimming shorts. The problem is he never wears them there as he never goes out or changes from school uniform! I've refused to buy any more so he tends to put on his team football kit! There'll be trouble when the season starts and he's lost half of it.