I'm in a virtually sexless marriage and it is as strong as ever. I love my husband totally and have immense respect for him. Married for 38 years, together another 8. He takes the mick out of me and calls me a bloody nun, but in a humourous way! I know he would like a more physical marriage, but I have literally no interest at all since the menopause and the necessary hormones cleared off! It may be just a phase, but if so, its a long one! It really depends on both partners and their willingness to give and take, like all aspects of marriage. I agree with the posters who say to sit down and talk. Maybe your husband isn't aware how you feel? Men are fertile until the day they die whereas women aren't! Mother nature was cruel! I think the trick is not to see it as a problem, just a progression of the relationship. There is far more to being a supportive and loving wife than feeling obliged to 'perform' in the bedroom dept. Just in case anyone was wondering,this is a recent thing, I was an insatiable tart for many years. Maybe I used up my libido too quickly. Oh and I'm 59.