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.. to wonder what happened to manners?

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Paperbackwriter Wed 07-Aug-19 12:54:40

I was in our local M&S food store this morning and had stopped to glance at the headlines of papers I don't normally read (as you do..). A bunch of children came crashing through, talking and looking at something on a phone. I moved a little, and, as they seemed oblivious to me - one had already crashing into my bag - said (quietly), "be careful" as they bundled past. A woman with them then breezed past saying, "We're just trying to get to the door. It's you who's in the way." I was nowhere near the damn door) I thought, whatever happened to good manners? A brief, "sorry" would have been covered it. And what message is she teaching those children? I now hate myself for sounding so sodding fogey-ish. I wish I'd had something acidly apposite to say at the time - she sounded so rude and entitled.

Gonegirl Wed 07-Aug-19 12:56:41

You would have thought a "sorry" would have come naturally to her. This generation are different to how we were/are.

aggie Wed 07-Aug-19 13:02:21

My Family are known to giggle when someone walks into me because it is an automatic response to say "sorry" when it is not even my fault !

Minniemoo Wed 07-Aug-19 13:02:54

Sounds like a very ignorant teacher. Not surprised it's niggling at you. It would me as well.

felice Wed 07-Aug-19 13:07:33

My comment is always "do you practice being rude or does it come naturally?".
By the time they figure out the question I have usually moved on.

Iam64 Wed 07-Aug-19 13:11:28

Doesn't sound like a teacher to me. Does sound like a very rude woman and children who weren't properly supervised , whoever she was

Minniemoo Wed 07-Aug-19 13:15:25

It was possibly one of the Mum's 'helping' out.

EllanVannin Wed 07-Aug-19 13:21:37

I'd have given her " one of my withering looks " instead. It's worked in the past when schoolchildren have hustled me to get on the bus, then a " sorry " comes forthwith.

maddyone Wed 07-Aug-19 13:28:00

Aggie, that made me laugh, you are obviously very British.

I’m another who thinks the woman wasn’t a teacher, whoever she was, she was as rude as the children.

Sarahmob Wed 07-Aug-19 13:57:33

Why assume it’s a teacher? Surely they’re on holiday from school!

Paperbackwriter Wed 07-Aug-19 14:11:20

Er.. I didn't say she was a teacher! Only that she was teaching her children rotten manners. I wish her joy of them when they're teenagers and still as utterly graceless as she was.

Paperbackwriter Wed 07-Aug-19 14:12:42

EllanVannin Oh she got a withering look all right - unfortunately she hadn't spoken till she'd swished past me so the look was wasted!

Minniemoo Wed 07-Aug-19 14:14:15

Gosh, Paperbackwriter! Of course she wasn't a teacher. How interesting that many of us assumed she was.

Minniemoo Wed 07-Aug-19 14:16:59

Or I should correct myself and say that it was ME that thought she was a teacher. Apologies!

So she's just a rude woman who is looking after rude children

Glammy57 Wed 07-Aug-19 14:21:45

aggie. I am the same - always apologise when someone bumps into me! If I could bring one thing back from extinction it would be good manners.

SparklyGrandma Wed 07-Aug-19 14:27:14

Withering look I agree with as an expression EllaVannin

Or apologise yourself which is very British..

GoodMama Wed 07-Aug-19 14:27:51

What an unpleasant encounter. Unfortunately rude people come in all ages.

Sara65 Wed 07-Aug-19 14:38:11


I’m the same, somebody crashes into me, and I say, oh, I’m so sorry

Gaunt47 Wed 07-Aug-19 14:59:28

I do something similar when someone barges by or if I stand aside and they don't thank me. I act as though they had said thank you, and sing out cheerily "oh you're welcome".

Bathsheba Fri 09-Aug-19 08:48:04

As I was about to enter the toilets at Morrisons once, someone was about to exit, so I stood back to let her through first, only to be rewarded with a scowl and a muttered "oh for *&$@'s sake".

I challenged her, and it turned out that I'd stood in the wrong place - apparently I should have stood to the other side so she didn't have to go to the trouble of walking round me to leave the store confused. She got a very loud and scathing dressing down from me, which left several nearby customers laughing at her - very satisfying grin

Teetime Fri 09-Aug-19 09:09:53

I saw a woman picking her feet in M & S café and decided then that was it all manners gone.

RosieLeah Fri 09-Aug-19 09:10:51

Sadly, this sort of behaviour has become the norm these days. These children are the future of our country. Doesn't bode well, does it?

TerriBull Fri 09-Aug-19 09:52:22

Sorry for your experience Paperback. I remember, again in Marks and Spencers, holding the door open for a woman (very young) with a pushchair, she breezed past without any acknowledgement, I said "thank you is the word you are searching for" her riposte "I don't have to thank you" me "I don't have to hold the door open for you!" shock Took my breath away, when I was loaded up with pushchairs/prams etc. I really appreciated anyone who offered such a gesture. However, I would add she isn't the norm., everyone else I've done that has been very gracious, which is good because the world is a better place with manners imo.

TerriBull Fri 09-Aug-19 09:53:49

correction I've done that for.

rockgran Fri 09-Aug-19 10:34:07

If someone fails to say "Thank you" or "Sorry", I say loudly
"Don't mention it... oh you didn't!" Makes me feel better anyway.