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ninathenana Sun 18-Aug-19 09:20:17

Yesterday was our local carnival parade. The group for adults with special needs that DS attends gave out letters 2 wks ago saying they were entering with their decorated mini bus and if your coming please wear carnival outfits and lots of glitter (think Rio) letter gave a time and meeting place, where two members of staff will be.. Son dresses in his specially bought outfit and goes of excitedly to meet the others. He waited half an hour, nobody there. He walked to the starting place for the parade, no mini bus and no staff or anyone. Did they cancel and nobody told son ??
He rang home quiet agitated, as his autism can give him high anxiety levels.
DD and family were here and were going to watch parade so arranged to meet in town.
The mini bus was not in the parade and nor was anyone DS knew.
AIBU to think this is a very bad way for a branch of a national charity to treat vulnerable people ?

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Tangerine Sun 18-Aug-19 22:18:21

You are definitely not being unreasonable and I am very sorry for your son and you.

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Day6 Sun 18-Aug-19 22:28:17

Nina, I am SO sorry your son was let down so badly. He may have special needs, but any of us, expecting others in support, would be so disappointed, and feel abandoned if people ditched an idea at the last minute without ensuring our group knew it was not going to happen.

I'll just add a big 'well done' to your son for entering into the spirit of the event, I do hope he has got over feeling abandoned, because that was what the group did. They allowed one vulnerable person to feel alone.

Shame on the group for pulling out without notifying your son. Your son made the effort nina, For that he should be very proud. Good on him!

The group has questions to answer.

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moggie57 Mon 19-Aug-19 11:50:29

i would contact the organisers and demand an apology..

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kittylester Mon 19-Aug-19 12:19:21

An apology is much use. Awareness raising would be better to try to prevent it happening again.

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HazelG Mon 19-Aug-19 21:21:43

This just broke my heart ninathenanna you are definitely not being unreasonable, I would be livid and they would need a police escort and barricades.
At least until I calmed down, which might take a very long time. angry

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vickymeldrew Wed 21-Aug-19 18:36:55

Nina- come back and tell us what the charity said ?

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eazybee Fri 23-Aug-19 15:11:53

Have you discovered if the minibus in the parade was cancelled, and if so, why?

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