Grrrh! Friends who mess you about.

I gave up on one friend who was always late or cancelled. We used to meet for lunch once a week, but as often as not I was left standing in the rain waiting for her, and she would arrive late, smiling, saying she had been trying on a dress, or 'couldn't get off the phone'. Other times, I would have skipped breakfast because we were having lunch, and she would phone as I was leaving the house to say she couldn't make it, and it would turn out that she'd known this for days, but hadn't bothered to tell me.

I know things happen, and if she had been late because of an emergency, it would have been fine; but it was because she basically saw her time as more important than mine.

Thanks wellbeck much appreciated. I have accepted it. I thought at first the others must have said not to invite me? Although we all got on so well many years ago. She had invited them to her air bnb. I was excited, not thinking I wasn’t invited lol. If we were only acquaintances I wouldn’t have given it another thought. I guess classic example of FOMO ???. (Given myself a good talking to)!

Do you think friends who are late/tardy/cancel at last minute etc actually realise what they are doing? In my case the person I was meeting seems to manage to meet other people on time.Do you think it makes a difference if travelling on public transport? Having said this, I would always get earlier bus if I was meeting anyone, so I would not be late. Its not the first time Ive had a text saying so sorry, just on the bus.My friend had a very responsible job, I really dont know how they were in their working life. Id be quite surprised if their timekeeping had been good. I sometimes feel they are on time for what matters to them, obviously I dont. It got to the stage I felt I wasted so much time sitting waiting that I just couldnt do it anymore. Still keep in touch by card or text. The person is very nice within themselves. I feel it such a shame we dont meet up, but I just could not cope with the constant lateness. It wasn't as if it was just a few minutes each time.

I honestly think that it just doesn't register, because they care more about themselves than about other people.

The friend I mentioned runs her own business, with appointments for clients, so she is perfectly capable of keeping to time if she wants to.