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I probably am being a bit unreasonable but....

(26 Posts)
BlueBelle Tue 08-Oct-19 05:46:37

In a way I know I am being unreasonable but does anyone else get a ‘tiny bit’ irritated by posters who comment (sometimes very valid posts or ideas) without having read the thread and the posts before theirs
I certainly haven’t always time to read every post in a long thread but I do skim read and make sure I read the original posters subsequent posts to feel fairly up to speed before I comment
You get a poster say for instance ‘I m not married’ then 25 posts on someone pops up with ‘of course your husband could.....’
Surely if you’re interested enough to comment you should be interested enough to keep up to some extent
Moan over
Have a great day everyone

Nansnet Tue 08-Oct-19 06:26:53

Yes, I do too! I find it very irritating sometimes, when comments are made, and, like you say, it's obvious that the poster has not fully read the thread, or at least had a good skim and read the OPs further comments. Some posters seem to get the complete wrong end of the stick, which isn't particularly helpful. And then you sometimes get comments based on that post, instead of the OPconfused

BradfordLass72 Tue 08-Oct-19 07:29:12

Mea culpa!
It's not good enough to bleat plead that it's hard for me to read text which is partly missing and dances about (that's what AMD suffers see) but it is genuinely hard work to read many posts.

Especially those who use very little white space and don't separate their paragraphs.

A thick block of text, in either the OP or comments, with no space between anything is hard for anyone; impossible for me.

I try hard, or should that be 'I'm a tryhard' grin because I often feel my life experience has given me some insights and experience.

Often though, I read a selection of comments, in which, most of the time, someone has said what I would have. So why duplicate?

EllanVannin Tue 08-Oct-19 07:55:06

Have you ever spoken to someone in a queue and they haven't listened to what you've said but they prattle on expecting you to listen to what they've said ?
It really rattles me when it's they who started the conversation. I find myself saying to myself " you ignorant pig ". It's the height of bad manners so I now tend to be stand-offish towards those who I think will pull this stunt.

Iam64 Tue 08-Oct-19 08:02:56

On Mumsnet, they have a thing "RLFT".

Gaunt47 Tue 08-Oct-19 08:06:44

Iam64 what does RLFT mean? Forgive my ignorance.

Susan56 Tue 08-Oct-19 08:12:32

Totally agree with you all.I especially think when somebody has poured their heart out about family and personal matters and then people make negative comments without having read the whole of the original post it must be very upsetting.

BradfordLass, I always like to read your comments, you are the voice of wisdom and reason and always offer sound advice.I have screenshot some of your wisdom to refer back to.x

Bathsheba Tue 08-Oct-19 08:18:01

I think it's RTFT, which means 'Read the full thread' (polite version) or Read the fucking thread' (most often intended version grin)

Maggiemaybe Tue 08-Oct-19 08:22:47

It would be helpful if we could have all the OP’s posts highlighted as happens on Mumsnet. It’s so easy over there to scroll through and still catch any updates.

RTFT is read the full thread. Or the f can stand for something else if you’re feeling aggrieved. smile

Urmstongran Tue 08-Oct-19 08:32:09

I read before I comment - otherwise what’s the point? Someone upthread May already have said what I was going to - in which case I just say xxx I agree.

Gaunt47 Tue 08-Oct-19 08:39:06

Thanks Bathsheba & Maggiemaybe. No wonder it wasn't in the Gransnet acronyms list. Of course, I shouldn't have gone off thread, but thank you.

sodapop Tue 08-Oct-19 08:52:09

Oh please no more dreadful abbreviations.

I agree BlueBelle it's annoying when another Poster clearly hasn't bothered to read the original post properly. I think sometimes people are so keen to put their own views forward they are not interested in the details already given. Much like the people who constantly talk about themselves and don't want to know about you. I understand sometimes it's hard wading through big blocks of text or several pages of comments.
I do appreciate it when a poster comes back and responds to a comment I've made.

Maggiemaybe Tue 08-Oct-19 09:07:30

It’s not easy to read every single post, admittedly, especially when some do go on a bit. When I first joined GN, I’d get a bit narked when someone else got thanks and praise for repeating the self same point I’d made two pages earlier. It barely registers now, honest! grin

Amagran Tue 08-Oct-19 09:26:13

I do agree that it is annoying when people clearly haven't read the OP properly or the comments of others.

However, I do have to plead guilty to not keeping up. There are times when, by the time I have composed what I want to say, the topic has moved on and my comments look to be off the point! blush

Amagran Tue 08-Oct-19 09:28:14

discussion topic

BlueBelle Tue 08-Oct-19 16:11:17

I agree there are times when I ve answered with nothing showing above but when I post it a couple of posts come in above mine that weren’t there
And if course if it’s a long thread you can’t read it word for word but skim read and do at least read the original posters subsequent posts as things are added that Someone who has not read anything bar the original post will miss
You ll get ‘ ‘I live 200 miles from my son’ and then halfway down the page someone will chirp up ‘does you son live nearby’

humptydumpty Tue 08-Oct-19 16:20:16

I agree about the OP's posts being highlighted to make things easier; I thought that came up a while back when GN Central was re-designing the site? Don't know why they haven't done it?

Ilovecheese Tue 08-Oct-19 16:41:07

The op's posts are a different colour on my tablet, but not on the desktop, no idea why.

Greenfinch Tue 08-Oct-19 16:43:38

They are green on my desktop and my own posts are highlighted in pink.

Tangerine Tue 08-Oct-19 16:45:15

I admit to having done this on some posts but I have tried not to do it recently. The things is, when a thread is several pages long, it's easy to miss an update by the OP.

BlueBelle Tue 08-Oct-19 16:53:00

The original posters posts don’t come up in another colour on my iPad or iPhone apart from the original post which is green
My own posts are in pink

Bathsheba Tue 08-Oct-19 18:00:57

The op's posts are a different colour on my tablet, but not on the desktop, no idea why.

This puzzles me. I've seen this mentioned before on here, and I don't understand how one or two people get a different display from everyone else. I can look at GN on an iMac, a Windows laptop, an iPhone and an iPad. Not one of them shows the OP's posts in a different colour - the first post is highlighted green, but no subsequent posts are coloured at all. OP's subsequent posts on Mumsnet show up in a different colour, but I've never seen it on GN. confused

Is there anyone else here who can see OP's subsequent posts highlighted in a different colour?

Nanny27 Tue 08-Oct-19 18:12:41

Yes. On my phone the Op's posts are green and mine are in pink

kircubbin2000 Tue 08-Oct-19 19:24:41

This happens in real life too . I told my friend how I was going to deal with a problem and she gave me a pep talk telling me what to do and what to say to resolve it as if I couldn't speak for myself.

Blencathra Thu 17-Oct-19 06:49:44

YANBU. The most irritating are those that have apologised, agreed they were wrong but people still pile in because they haven’t read the update. If the thread is very long it is pointless reading the OP and then wading in - it is quite likely your point has been made several times over.