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Dealing with Intrusive people

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Judy54 Thu 10-Oct-19 14:25:58

I have recently been diagnosed with a health problem which means I cannot get to my usual groups and leisure activities. Whilst I am happy to discuss my condition with family and close friends, I would rather not talk about it to people I don't know so well. The problem is that they feel they have a right to know and are in my opinion being intrusive and asking extremely personal questions which I would rather not answer. Any ideas how to deal with this in a polite way.

Judy54 Sat 12-Oct-19 16:34:11

Yes I too find GabrielleG's post disturbing. Our lives were turned upside down five years ago when my Husband was diagnosed with cancer. He played lots of sports and went to the gym so certainly did not bring this or his other unrelated health problems upon himself anymore than I did my recent health diagnosis. It is just life and can happen to any of us at anytime. Glad GabrielleG at the moment appears not to have experienced any of this and sincerely hope she never does.

Fiachna50 Tue 15-Oct-19 00:08:25

Well Gabriella, my issues started after a virus. Yep, and a virus that no doctor could tell me what I had. It left me with about 4 different conditions and 2 are autoimmune. I am now on permanent medication for two of the conditions. I say this as my situation can happen to anyone and the conditions I have are chronic. On top of all that in my 50s I developed adult-onset asthma. I have been a non smoker all my life. Till this virus I was fit, healthy and never at a doctor's surgery. Now I am never away from the place. Don't think it can never happen to you.....

pinkquartz Tue 15-Oct-19 11:42:42

GabriellaG54 seems to go untouched by most of the problems that beset ordinary folk......
She is either very lucky or going to be shocked when she discovers the truth is "Don't think it can't happen to you" It can, sadly.