AIBU? To cull this friendship

Who knows what their reasons were but if you can question the friendship after such a minor thing then I think maybe it’s you that doesn’t value it as you should. Some people find it hard to say no and you have no idea what might be going on in their marriage or private lives. They may have needed to discuss something privately. I think you’re completely over-reacting and are being quite childish about it. I think you should apologise to them personally. It sounds very needy from your side.

My first thought was that it sounds like your friends had had an argument prior to your meeting up. Give A the benefit of the doubt but take your lead from her.

They have hurt you, and as they don't seem to be old friends, I would drop them in your place and try to make friends with other people instead.

CatterySlavvel
Stop running yourself down.Maybe out of politeness they accepted your invitation but did not want to make a day of it but happy to meet for the cinema.Did you go to the cinema together ?if so leave it at that but wait for them to make the first move for any further outings together.

It's possible that apart from an intial polite query, they are not that interested in how the bungalow works are going, perhaps they thought that if they went for coffee that would be the main topic of conversation. The works are obviously important to you but not to them, we all seem to forget that what is fascinating to us might bore the pants off someone else.

If they’d turned down your offer of coffee twice it’s just bad luck you went to the same place.
You said B wasn’t really interested in your house after the first look round, perhaps they’d heard enough about it and thought that would be the topic of conversation over coffee too. Were they still willing to go to the cinema? If yes they were obviously happy to be with you, just wanted a break, however weird that seems.
It’s a shame to see a friendship end, but sometimes we just have to move on.

My first thought was maybe they had had a row or something else they needed to discuss

CatterySlave, it was bad manners of A and B to go to that particular cafe unless they had some terrific emergency. I quite understand how that hurt your feelings.

I'd give them another chance at least, and maintain the friendship while expecting a little less than you'ld like from them. Perhaps either A or B is the thoughtless one and the other is a follower.

It could be anything really. I don't think they'd have even bothered to come and see the house if they were not interested in your friendship at all. Sometimes people act strange for reasons no one else can fathom and unless you're looking for an excuse to break off with them try to let it pass (unless it happens too often for your toleration threshold)

My first thought was maybe they had had a row or something else they needed to discuss

This is what I assumed. There's nothing worse than trying to exchange pleasantries with other people and keep up a brave face when you really need to get the other person alone and talk things over.

The ball is in their court. Maybe "B" was a little jealous of you having your bungalow refurbished. Jealousy is a nasty ugly thing to be on the receiving end of and sadly, those who are of a jealous nature don't know they are!!

It all sounds a little strange to me. I can't imagine any of my friends coming round for a look at the bungalow and going off in a hurry, seems very rude.
First thing I thought was B was jealous of your refurbishment. might be totally wrong but some people are a bit like that.
You had arranged for a cinema visit also and the cup of tea was a lovely suggestion, can't see anything wrong with that at all.
If your friend A was having problems with hubby she should have text you and called off the visit, it is only polite to do that.
If this friendship is important to you then I would just wait for a phone call.

Agree ,I thought the same .