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Feeling ever so slightly miffed

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H1954 Sat 30-Nov-19 18:07:09

I shall no doubt be shot down in flames over this but here goes; we have not been together long and wanted to invite close family to a small party so both sides can get to know each other. One of the guests from my OH side has announced that they will be bringing a "third party" along and I'm feeling a bit miffed to be honest. They didn't even ask if it was ok, just assumed! I do not know this person who, apparently is very immature and has no social graces. I just wished they had asked if it was ok to bring her!!!!

Eloethan Mon 02-Dec-19 10:10:21

Sounds like she might liven things up a bit! I have to say that you do come across a bit Hyacinth Bucket. Is there an Onslow in your family who is kept under wraps?

Nightsky2 Mon 02-Dec-19 12:02:30

H1954. Does it really matter?. Be nice to your guest who might just feel a bit overwhelmed by the occasion. You might even find that you like her/him. She/he might be a lot of fun as they will be more relaxed than those who worry too much about how one holds their knife and fork. Enjoy your party and relax, sounds a teeny bit snobby to me.

Nightsky2 Mon 02-Dec-19 12:06:55

Oops H1954. Just read your post. Difficult one🌺.

Hetty58 Mon 02-Dec-19 16:23:10

Of course, it was rude of them to invite somebody else without even asking. You don't want to be rude in return by making a fuss about it, though. Far better just to ignore and accept it.

SalsaQueen Mon 02-Dec-19 19:38:20

H1954 You're wrong - I have got good manners, thanks. You sound a bit ridiculous.

notanan2 Mon 02-Dec-19 19:43:23

In DHs family, partners (including new/recent ones) are always included as an unwritten rule.

In my side only named invitees are welcome.

Neither side is "wrong" IMO just different. These are the things thar come up when you blend families.

Smileless2012 Mon 02-Dec-19 22:22:34

It would have been nice to ask you if it was OK H1954 rather than just assume. If they had asked you first, you'd probably have been too polite to say no but I understand why you're feeling slightly miffed.