AIBU to be so up and down?

EllaKeat, you've been through so much that most of us can only imagine how tough it's been. You are still here, though, and feeling well, which is wonderful.

You know that you won't have long to live. That's the only difference between you and me this morning.

I don't know how long I have - but then, any one of us could die at any time. We tend to ignore it, never face up to it and act as if we have all the time in the world.

Each day is very precious, should be appreciated and never wasted. Carry on with your normal (80 percent) days and grab all the happiness you can!

I agree you are very brave and making the best of a difficult situation. You will always be a part of your family's life. Concentrate on living each day well. Take care

Dear EllaKeat
I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis.
At times it must be unbearable to think about it.
You are very brave and I admire your spirit.
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You’re a courageous and inspirational woman EllaKeat. I’m so sorry to hear your news but so pleased you’re feeling physically strong just now. Of course continue to do everything you can, enjoy what you do. Make memories for your grandchildren, your love will always be with them. There’s a lot to process, why wouldn’t you be up and down? Never think you’re being unreasonable. Sending love and a hug.

No of course you are not being unreasonable to feel so up and down. May I suggest you contact the McMillian nursing service. McMillian nurses are very knowledgable and able to provide emotional and physical support for people in your position.
They have a support line on 0808-808-00-00 for you to talk 8am- 8pm 7 days a week and hopefully will put you in touch with a McMillian nurse in your area who can visit you at home.

I echo the ideas of leaving something: recorded messages and videos, letters, photos and love.

Maybe your children or grandchildren can be part of this - it may help them too to make a Living Memory with you.

When my Mum received her final prognosis, we talked a lot and her biggest regret was not seeing my younger son grow up (the elder was already in the army).

There is never a good time to die; no one ever wants to leave behind their beloved grand-children.

I don't know how old yours are, but almost certainly you will be able to see in them even now, the seeds of the adults they will become.
That seemed to comfort my mother and indeed my boy was as kind and caring then, as he is now at 40.

Stay with us as long as you feel able EllaKeat because remote as we are, it doesn't stop us from genuinely caring about you and sending good thoughts, prayers and much love.

Gin and chocolate sound exactly the right medicine

I am so sorry, no words can make it better. I would be feeling the same. Sending hugs. And you will always be part of your family's life. They will remember you with much love and you will always be in their hearts.

I am so sorry. I hope our story can give you hope. Our DiL had the same diagnosis three years ago, she still with us. Last year it spread to her brain we were told it would be her last Christmas, she is still with us. A few months ago we were told once again to prepare ourselves, she is still with us. Is it the treatment keeping her going? Is the prayers and positive thoughts from friends, family and gransnetters, is it the hope? And the will to live? I don’t know I just want to say don’t give up and live every day to the full. Along with my DiL I will keep you in my thoughts.

Peace and love to youx

Ellakeat , the app is called Recordmenow and the lady who created it did so for exactly the situation you find yourself in .

It’s very easy to use . I hope you find it if use x

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Sorry!

EllaKeat
Well done for carrying on caring for the animals and for your fortitude and humour.
I hope you can make some lovely memories for your damily.

There will always be someone on here to talk to when you need a friendly chat

*I’m sorry you’ve had this news, EllaKeat. You sound like a wonderful person and you’ll be giving your family some lovely memories. Don’t forget, too, that doctors’ predictions are just that, a prediction, and they can be wildly inaccurate.

Ella my thoughts are with you. for your rainy days.

Oh - and YANBU.

More love and hugs here. You will always be a part of your children and GCs' lives - not just as memories, but as the essence of who you are, which will be part of them.

Well done for setting to with the donkeys on such a difficult day for you.

I remember when I worked in hospitals a lady in similar circumstances to yours said to me something along the lines of: "I get fed up with people asking me what I am going to do - obviously I am going to live till I die as we all do." It seemed a sound philosophy.

I would humbly and respectfully suggest you find the very very best professionals to talk to about this most difficult situation.

You are truly one brave woman EllaKeat. Your post has touched me.

Sending you a huge virtual hug. I think you sound pretty amazing.
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I'm so very sorry. Your children and grandchildren will always have good memories of you.

So sorry to hear that you have to live with this! I did wonder when you posted previously that all was not well.
Huge ((hugs)) I am so glad you are feeling well now.
No one can say for certain how long any of us has left.

DH has stage 4 cancer but so far he is well and enjoying life and making plans.

When he was first diagnosed I said that I would stop all my activities and devote myself more to him. "Why?" he asked, "I'm not stopping anything so why should you".
He hasn't.

EllaKeat thank you for sharing your devastating news with us, how very brave you are. I'm so very sorry and send love and hugs and xxx

How hard it is to be so brave and you certainly are, your family will never forget you, your love is in their hearts, love and strength to you?

EllaKeat sending you love and ((hugs))

I can't add any wise words or say anything helpful, only offer huge (((hugs))) to a very courageous lady. Xx

EllaKeat how brave you sound. I am so sorry that you have had this diagnosis, so sending you positive thoughts, love and a virtual {{{hug}}}
What a lovely thing to do for your granddaughter.

Keep on posting as and when you feel able.