60 years married

Nope. Its a personal and private anniversary for the both of you...not everyone else. Enjoy!

It’s your anniversary do as you please !
We did have a special holiday for our ruby wedding and thoroughly enjoyed it.
Hope you enjoy your holiday and congratulations ?

I thought is is usually family who organise and pay for party for happy couple. I would go on holiday and hope for a diamond too!

No, it isn't selfish. Do as you please.

If you want to include your family, perhaps go for a meal out as well - I don't mean with the whole extended family on each side!

Certainly I’d do hat pleased me. My husbands 60th cost me a fortune we could have had 3 holidays for what it cost me. My 60th was a toned down party. And now we travel, no more big celebrations it’s all about us now! We worked for everything we have so selfish doesn’t come into it.

Congratulations!!! What an achievement, ever better you want to share a special holiday together. Tell your friend that you look forward to family and friend organising a lovely party for you....but meantime....you will plan the best holiday in the world for you and your DH....because you don’t get a second chance at celebrating your 60th! People really are very cheeky! My aunt in Australia didn’t want a funeral...instead she gave her nearest and dearest money for a fabulous, memorable meal together to wish her well on her way. My husband said that was selfish!! Hence....I’ve made my will....and advised my solicitor I do not want a funeral....I am going to provide enough money for a lovely party my ashes are to be used to provide food for a beautiful new tree in a forest.....

No real friend would accuse you of being selfish. Much more sensible thing to do anyway - no worry/stress/expense over arrangements for other people to have a goof time, A real friend would organise a surprise celebration for you!

There are people who love organising parties. There are people who love attending parties. I am in neither group ! My husband hate parties. We always celebrate any event together, usually away. That’s what works for us.
Even if someone else arranged a party for us, we would secretly hate it.
The only possible reason to exhaust yourselves is if one of you would love a party. Otherwise do whatever pleases you most. Silly, misguided friend!

First of all, congratulations! I would go on holiday. I wouldn't be surprised if your family also have a party for you.

I think your friend should mind her own business.

In my opinion, it's perfectly understandable and acceptable for you to wish to have a lovely holiday with your partner.

If your family - and this friend - feel strongly about you having a celebration party, perhaps they would like to organise and pay for it, with all the work and expense that would be involved.

Congratulations - and don't be pushed into something you would rather not do. Have a great time!

Congratulations to you both. Spend your money on a lovely holiday to please yourselves instead of putting it aside to please others. True friends will want you to be happy. Be waited on instead of being the host. Best wishesxx

Go for your holiday and have a wonderful time. It's your anniversary, enjoy celebrating. X

Do what YOU want! It's your money and your celebration. You are entitled to spend your time and money on whatever you wish, wherever you chose and your so-called friend is an interfering busybody, whose value as a true friend I would question!

With friends like that who needs enemies.Your life your choice. Enjoy your holiday.

Not selfish at all. It's your anniversary, do what you want!

No it is not at all selfish. We had a big party for our 25th and I didn't really enjoy it. My husband had a great time dancing and catching up with friends. I was so busy making sure everyone else was having a good time that I didn't. So I said never again. Any big occasions we celebrate with our immediate family only. If friends are unhappy then that is their problem. You have your holiday it's your celebration to have how you want. On a separate note we have a close friend who always arranges meals out and recently weekends away to coincide with her birthday and their anniversary. Now retired and on a limited budget we are no longer doing this either. Our budget is for things we want to do.

Are you real ExD1938? Your way of speaking sounds very with-it for someone who must be 80-ish. There have been suggestions that some threads are created by Gransnet staff. If you're real, have the holiday - you most definitely deserve it.

As many others have said, your friend is WRONG. Celebrate YOUR way - if others want to celebrate your time together, let them sort it all out and invite you.

I congratulate you both on 60 years married. You deserve some time to just the 2 of you.

It's your celebration so go and have a fabulous holiday and live your life for yourself not for your friend.
If you were my friend celebrating I would treat you and your husband to a lovely meal

Have the holiday - please yourself not everyone else. Congrats on your wedding anniversary ? - go away and have a fab time and don’t feel guilty. My 60th birthday is coming up and everyone wants me to throw a party but me and hubby are going to northern Spain for a holiday instead ? feel so good now I’ve made the decision!

You should celebrate as you want to - and other people may want to celebrate too. 60 years is impressive! How about asking someone (family or friend) to organise a bring-and-share party after your holiday? That way everyone is included, you all have fun, and there is no huge bill for the party. I know people who had a bring and share wedding reception and it was great - everyone felt they had contributed and the couple didn't have to spend thousands.

Your friend is the selfish one because she is thinking of herself.

It's your anniversary so you spend it as you want. Personally I would rather go on holiday with my OH than have a large party for other people to enjoy. Choose somewhere really nice and have a great time both

It's entirely up to you two how you want to celebrate your 60 years together and no-one else's.

Wow. I wasnt aware that it was compulsory to have anniversary parties!! Its our 25th later this year, I don't like parties and certainly dont intend to have one!!