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Love and life in lock down without booz?

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dortie145 Tue 14-Apr-20 13:53:40

I am in lock down with a man I had known for 6 weeks. Crazy 8 know! All has been idyllic truly magical and despite my reservations we are getting on so well I moved into his house and domestically all well But we have fallen out because he says I drink too much! Despite the fact he has enough beer in to stock a small shop and 5pm is beer and snack time I apparently consume too much wine 4 glasses to his 4 beers Yes it is a bottle but I have do e it for years and I don't get drunk! But he has gone cold and apparently this is the issue as in his last relationship she drank on an alcoholic scale I can't imagine life without a glass of something I am perfect apparently in all other respects But I don't want to be blinking perfect just me

MissAdventure Tue 14-Apr-20 15:55:25

It sounds as if all was magical until you started to actually get to know one and other.

Maybe you could move out and just see eachother so you can see if it's worth compromising so you have a future together?

Missfoodlove Tue 14-Apr-20 16:13:24

dortie145, It comes down to what you love the most, the wine or the man.
If it’s the man then why not have a pact?
Try and reduce your intake together.
Have some alcohol free evenings and limit yourself to two glasses when you do drink.
I can almost guarantee you will sleep better and feel better almost immediately.

If you choose the wine then that is a great shame and you are probably on the way to having a serious problem.
It will be harder to kick it alone

I think you know the right answer, now it’s the hard bit.

Xxjanexx Tue 14-Apr-20 16:51:07

I really do think you have a problem, and so does your partner.
Did he no how much you drunk before you moved in with him?
Re.the previous partner who was a alcoholic.

In the early days off a relationship as you probably know it’s all moonlight and roses.
But to move in after 6weeks...what was you thinking.
Yes I no this lockdown has put a strain on a lot of people,financially and emotionally.
It’s none of my business what you spend your money on but how much is a bottle of wine? £5 or more I don’t drink so wouldn’t no. I use to in my 20’s 30’s
Anyway I’ll let you work the maths on that!

How about doing something else at 5pm? It sounds like your both clock watching until then

If your happy the way you are move out,and perhaps get outside help.
But like any addiction you have to WANT to give up.

Hetty58 Tue 14-Apr-20 16:58:45

Well, that's funny dortie145! (or is it 'Naty')

In February, you lived with your Mum (who, allegedly, drank half a bottle of whisky a day) and constantly rowed.

You said then:

'We both drink too much, probably because we are unhappy.'

You do get around a lot, don't you!

Buffybee Tue 14-Apr-20 17:16:34

Hi Hetty58, I thought Naty was the Canadian person with a husband and baby, living in Italy, with the Grandparents living close by and her Mil being intrusive.

Hithere Tue 14-Apr-20 17:23:07

I am also confused with the naty's comment

As for dortie, this is another issue that makes sense in the long term pattern painted in your background thread.

tickingbird Tue 14-Apr-20 17:24:50

Yes I thought that was Naty. Last I heard she’d gone back to Canada with baby as it was safer whilst this virus is about.

Hetty58 Tue 14-Apr-20 18:17:55

I can't help but notice writing (and replying in blocks) style - despite the deliberate (after initial) neglecting to use full stops, yet including exclamation marks, in the post - sorry!

Xxjanexx Tue 14-Apr-20 18:40:08

Hmmmm wondered why there was no response from the OP

Oopsadaisy3 Tue 14-Apr-20 19:05:44

He has lived with an alcoholic and doesn’t want to do it again.

Missfoodlove Tue 14-Apr-20 19:11:20

Why do people get their kicks from this silly attention seeking behaviour?
Although I thought it was a bit odd, I took the time to read the post a couple of times and mulled it over, I wanted to give an honest but kind response.

I think if this is the case then the poster needs some professional help.

MissAdventure Tue 14-Apr-20 19:38:58

Why on earth would anyone presume it's another person 'in disguise'?
From a few paragraphs.

It's hardly unheard of for people to be heavy drinkers.

MawB Tue 14-Apr-20 19:49:33

So OP used to live with Mum who was a heavy drinker (February this year)and has now moved in with a man who thinks she drinks too much too.
This sounds like an unhappy situation all round. I think OP needs help with her drinking habit and with her relationship. As a grandmother herself this is no example to show her grandchild(ren) surely she can see this is leading nowhere?

GrannySomerset Tue 14-Apr-20 19:51:36

One way to look at the issue is in terms of cost. One bottle of wine a day at, say £6.99 for something pretty undistinguished, comes out almost £50 a week. That alone would restrict my intake!