I think its true to say my DB was not interested in developing relationships with my children. My other DB & I have a more similar outlook & I have always bought his DD (age 10) birthday & Christmas presents even though they didn't give presents for my children who are grown up now. I enjoy buying for my niece.
My younger DB was very forgetful, took advantage of our DM, never stayed in touch and lived his own life which was fine. That's what he wanted. It doesn't matter that I didn't like the way he lived because he was happy.
He died in 2019 aged 46. He got married the year before to someone who was 22 years younger & their baby was born 2 months after he died. I'm not really interested in maintaining contact with her. I find her very irritating. My DM pays her rent - even though she gets benefits & is currently in the process of buying her a house. I'm envious. We don't have any communication although I did send Christmas presents.
It will soon be first birthday time. I'm not sure if I would send presents if my brother was still alive so am not sure why I feel guilty about the idea of not sending anything now. Am I being really mean? After all we are talking about a baby and all the other stuff is just my stuff to deal with.
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