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Hubby re-opening small shop in Lockdown

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skunkhair63 Mon 27-Apr-20 03:03:13

As a small family business, we can't afford to remain closed any longer. We are "allowed" to open as it's a Hardware shop. DH has held off as long as poss, but now feels the time is right to re-open (as B&Q etc have already done). We have decided that I should stay home - if he gets ill I will have to care for him, which seems a sensible move. But I have also told him we will have to self-distance at home, with designated rooms/areas for both of us, 2 metres apart at all times. I feel guilty though, and wonder if I am being "over the top". AIBU?

Caro57 Tue 28-Apr-20 13:34:48

DH vulnerable -we are distancing, separate bedrooms, bathrooms, towels in kitchen etc. Any eating utensils that cannot go in dishwasher we are keeping separate. I am using disinfectant wipes every morning on switches, handles, phones, remote controls, taps etc. I am a nurse and after work strip off at the backdoor, uniform in washing machine and go straight into ‘my’ shower. So far so good..........

Sussexborn Tue 28-Apr-20 13:50:30

It sounds as if you have thought things through and are taking all possible precautions. Do what you are comfortable with.

Good luck and hope all goes well for you.

Bluecat Tue 28-Apr-20 14:31:31

I think you're absolutely right to live separately. Make a small sacrifice now, live to see the future.

SilverDarlings12 Tue 28-Apr-20 14:52:48

You are definitely not over the top---Boundaries for you and
yours. I have 3 people with the Virus in ICU. ++

GrauntyHelen Tue 28-Apr-20 14:53:21

@BlueSky speak for yourself the over 70 in this household would find that a problem !

Bluecat Tue 28-Apr-20 16:26:00

SilverDarlings12, I hope all goes well for your sick people.

SunnySusie Tue 28-Apr-20 16:44:48

My husband returned to work on Monday. He leaves his shoes in the garage when he gets home and never brings them into the house. He removes all his clothes in the garage, puts on a dressing gown, washes everything at 60 degrees, has a shower and then that's it. We dont isolate from each other in the house. We are mid-60s with no underlying health conditions and I am out several times a week helping elderly neighbours with shopping and picking up prescriptions so I cant see the point. I think we have taken reasonable precautions. I know three people who have had the virus, all mildly. One is 97, caught it in hospital having her hip replaced, but is home and doing well.

Seefah Tue 28-Apr-20 16:45:31

Skunkhair63. I don’t think you are OTT at all !! I am OTT about Covid but I don’t think anyone will regret being OTT , however they might regret being casual and hoping for the best and then getting a dose!
I have been wearing a mask and gloves since early March, isolating, taking vit DK2,C , zinc and immune boosters and I am at high risk and Im still here.

skunkhair63 Tue 28-Apr-20 19:28:27

Thanks to all for your contributions to this debate! Our shop has re-opened, and all is going okay with the protections we have put in place. Customers have actually congratulated DH on the new measures. Self distancing at home is okay too, we can still see and hear each other, which is better than for those who are choosing to move out of their family homes, or been deployed (as in the Army etc). DH is happier as he feels he is protecting me, and vice versa. On the grand scale of things, it's not such a sacrifice really, and it won't be forever. And as the kitchen is "mine", I have to get all the cups of tea etc. for him - he's loving that aspect! smile

BlueSky Tue 28-Apr-20 20:33:56

GrauntyHelen I've phrased it wrong, of course no sex could be a problem for a lot of 70+!

SirChenjin Tue 28-Apr-20 20:36:02

Thanks for the update skunkhair63 - that’s great to hear it’s going well smile

Witzend Wed 29-Apr-20 07:47:58

How I wish we had a shop like that around here, OP! All the best, I’m sure locals will be very pleased to see it open.
A dd has a brilliant hardware shop walking distance from her house. I love it, he almost always not only has whatever I want, but also knows where to find it!

Susan56 Wed 29-Apr-20 08:31:45

skunkhair glad it is all going well?

BlueSky Wed 29-Apr-20 08:43:15

Our Corner Shop has never been so busy! You realise how important they are to small communities during difficult times!

timetogo2016 Wed 29-Apr-20 11:20:28

Spot on Calendergirl.

Tangerine Wed 29-Apr-20 11:44:05

I hate to lower the tone but I'd like to ask something.

Are couples refraining from having sex during lockdown? I bet they aren't!! Well, not all of them anyway.

Yes, I can see why you're anxious and I think, if your home is suitable to do so, keep away from each other as much as possible perhaps and be as safe as possible within the shop.

In reality though, it must be difficult in the average person's home to be isolated from other inhabitants.

notanan2 Wed 29-Apr-20 13:23:41

Tangetine apparently pregnancy test sales are up so yes!

SirChenjin Thu 30-Apr-20 11:10:21

As are ‘toys’ apparently grin

BlueSky Thu 30-Apr-20 12:25:55

Tangerine if they are self isolating or one is vulnerable and the other out working, then I guess they shouldn't. Otherwise no problem!