I am feeling most shaken and wanted to check out if it's me that's odd or not. I think it comes under the AIBU heading.
I've been with my partner since 2002. He moved in with me eight years ago. He often refers to me as "his wife". I tell him I am nobody's wife (having had two disastrous marriages).
Yesterday he was talking about how much to send to his son in Australia for his upcoming 42nd birthday. He thought £30 was enough. I thought he was being mean and should send £100. He has money. He has his fireman's pension and his state pension and he is notoriously mean about eating out or even buying a coffee (much cheaper at home) so he has loads of money in the bank, otherwise I wouldn't suggest it. Last week he gave £10 to the postman as a tip because he was doing a great job in difficult times. I went into a lot of detail looking up how much money was worth now compared to 1969. (£100 is comparable to £6.05) and trying to persuade him to part with a little more for his son's birthday.
This morning I am even more shocked and quite upset. He read me a text from his wife saying "I think £30 will be enough - do you want to send it or shall I?" so two things here; 1) He's actually only sending £15 from him and £15 from her which makes it even more mean and 2) I had no idea they were still sending joint birthday presents. I don't send my sons joint presents from my ex husband. I think it's really weird and I can't work out exactly why I'm so shaking - it feels almost like jealousy. I'm so shocked I can't speak to him. Comments from all you rational people, please.
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