well i can see where you are coming from.
although i agree with PPs who say you cannot control the relationships your GC have with each other, and it's pointless to try; so you should relax, concentrate on your own life etc.
but, but..i think this is a part of your own inner life for you.
you are reflecting on a deeply emotional level, not discussing an intellectual point.
you wonder whether your influence on your daughter has disadvantaged her children somehow, unintentionally; and this is brought into stark relief by the contrast you see in the manner and ease of the other GC.
i had thought the word class just before you mentioned it.
it is the confidence of the middle classes that gives them a smoother run, better prospects, more choices etc.
and you see this self assurance in one set of GC and not the other. so you wonder, and feel uneasy that it has something to do with you. that it may be your fault.
these are the feelings i think.
and this is the point where you have to bring your intellect in. your daughter brought up her children, she chose her style and priorities. and what felt right for her. the other set may experience some unseen difficulties, you cannot tell. and above all you cannot control it and you are not responsible for how they turn out or what chances they have.
How much do you spend on yourself?
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