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Am I the only one seeking freedom?

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OliverZach Thu 07-May-20 23:52:08

I am at my wits end. All I want is to be able to see my children, grandchildren & parents. Eldest grandchild is obviously struggling being separated from the rest of the family. Parents, both in their 80’s, mum long term disabled now sole Carer for my dad who had a stroke in October. They are trying to look after each other but struggling. Problem is daughter & grandchildren live over 25 miles away, parents nearly 80 miles away! I just want to see them, they want to see me! I understand about the risks, we all do but want to do? I can accept all the other restrictions but I just want to see my family!

AGAA4 Fri 08-May-20 15:34:31

So sorry Tuppence. flowers

Reinforces why we need to stay at home.

Missing all my family so much

Hetty58 Fri 08-May-20 15:40:55

It really isn't that awful. Nobody is dropping bombs on us. We're not helplessly watching children starve!

merlotgran Fri 08-May-20 16:24:02

Spot on! Hetty.

Lots of phrases spring to mind like, 'Get a grip', 'Big girl's pants' etc.

GrannyGravy13 Fri 08-May-20 16:37:21

DD along with her two children (5yr old and 8 week old) took the difficult decision to isolate with us as her partner was still traveling into London each day.

I know we are fortunate, but it doesn't stop us from missing our other six GC and AC, it is sometimes a physical pain it hurts so much. It is for ours and theirs health, one DIL has decided not to send GC back to school until September at the earliest.

sodapop Fri 08-May-20 16:39:43

Yes its strangely comforting to know we are all in the same boat. We are doing the best we can for our families by staying safe OliverZach.

BlueBelle Sat 09-May-20 12:39:37

I have never thought it necessary to wash my clothes every time I ve been out I would if I d been anywhere where I was near people but to sit in your car, go in a field for a wee and then sit in a deckchair provided by your daughter who been in isolation for weeks wouldn’t make me think I needed to strip and wash everything when I got home but that’s me

Buddleja Sat 09-May-20 17:06:28

Would it help to remind yourself that this situation is strictly finite? As soon as either a vaccine or treatments become available things will change very fast and they are predicting a vaccine before the end of the year.

Hetty58 Sat 09-May-20 17:53:18

BlueBelle, agreed. If you'd been in a shop then that's different.

sodapop, none of my six grandchildren will be going to school until September at the earliest. They may not have the opportunity anyway as it will be a nightmare to reopen schools for just a few weeks and not all kids would be able to attend with distancing.

grannyticktock Sat 09-May-20 20:11:16

When people live within a mile or two of friends or family members, they are often happy to visit and stay at a safe distance in the garden -I know plenty of people who now do this. Yet such visits are frowned on if they entail a car drive, and absolutely taboo if it's a long drive. It is hard for those of us who are separated by many miles to believe that the distance somehow compounds the risk of infection.

52bright Sun 10-May-20 00:09:27

Sincere condolences Tuppence. flowers

Sussexborn Sun 10-May-20 00:40:56

So sorry for your loss Tuppence! Such a sad time for you.

I just try not to think too deeply about it and take each day as it comes. Fretting won’t help anyone and will add strain on our loved ones.

I haven’t come across anyone so far who thinks this is a good excuse not to see their family and friends. It’s a worrying time for everyone but especially those who are, or have family, working in a public facing role.