AIBU to expect DH to have common sense?

Each other’s foibles become more pronounced with retirement. Years spent looking after children, the home, the dog, garden, earning a living etc are so full on and busy but once it is just the two you (if you are fortunate enough to get that far) there’s more time to really see the other person.

My things get tidied away before I’ve finished with them and often in to places it would never occur to me to look. At first I thought it was me losing the plot! I am thinking about getting a Grandma shed put up in the garden with a padlock and one key! Not sure whether it’s to lock myself in or OH out!

Letting off steam anonymously is a healthy thing to do IMHO. If you named and shamed your OH in the local paper that would be mean spirited but, especially during the current lockdown, it’s preferable to keep a sense of humour, grumble to your online friends and then follow Elsa’s advice:

youtu.be/L0MK7qz13bU 1.06m

Loislovesstewie I do that too with a thermostat,heating and oven, yet I know logically it does not make it heat up quicker.

I have wondered why there are not many men on here, hope they are not being put off by the very few members of the anti men brigade.

My husband whacks the thermostat up to the max so that 'it heats up quicker'. I keep telling him that it doesn't , that setting it to the level where we are comfortable is best . Why? Because then he opens a window 'because it's too hot'! So we've used too much gas to heat the house and now he needs to cool down. I did ask if he was having a hot flush.

My husband gets up takes dog out to woods over the road. Gets back home makes me cup of tea brings it upstairs still in his boots! Leaves toilet seat up despite constant requests not too. Washes his hands and uses a nail brush leaves the sink in a mess. The list is endless I have come to the conclusion he does it to annoy me or likes being nagged at. His response is always that he forgets and he is sick of being nagged at!

anno To your PS post ....Spot on! ?

My wife often complains at this time of the year that I never roll up the garden hose after I have used it. She also often has a "verbal slap" at me when I leave my tools laying about after finishing a job around the house.

Why not just tidy up after yourself and save her the aggravation? Unless of course you enjoy winding her up?

Nnnnan2, congratulations on being the only person to make me feel unwelcome on Gransnet.

As for a separate thread for husbands to complain about their waves, surely it would be too short to be interesting since all our spouses are beyond reproach.

Ooooo Welbeck send that Big Yellow Taxi my way please x

I'm sure men have a different temperature gauge to women. My DH gets up very early and will open the back door on winter mornings, allowing icy air to flood the entire house; this is irritating enough but he also leaves the heating on full blast so that the bedroom radiators are almost at boiling point trying to counteract the arctic conditions. In hot weather we have the reverse; all windows left shut, mysteriously the back door also, and in the study he will be gently simmmering with windows closed, and the blind, which could deflect much of the bright sunlight that is racking up the temperature, is rolled tightly at ceiling height. Baffling.

Gosh I’m glad I’m single.

Sounds like we are married to the same man!
No advice i'm afraid, mine hasn't changed in 52 years.

Count your blessings rather than moan about un important things. I am sure you could find loads of lively things to say about him. Can we hear those instead please ..

Nannan2, what a series of "Rants". Calm down girl....calm down, or you will blow a gadget. I recommend that you have a lie down in a dark quiet room for at least half an hour.

Now, I really must get on with that work, although coming up to a bank holiday weekend not many others seem to be working with many businesses already closed for the holiday.

We seem to be living in a land of never-ending leisure these days. ? ?

Chill out Grandad1943! This is a place for light humour most of the time and encouraging and backing each other up the rest of the time.

We all have things that drive each other mad but they are not deal breakers. In a long and happy marriage they are usually just accepted as minor irritants outweighed by all the other good things. It doesn’t stop us poking fun at them though sometimes!

The naval estate reference is incorrect.

But won't argue with you further, you are obviously in a belligerent mood this morning.

I don't follow your post of 10:36:23 Nannan2
What are you trying to say precisely?

Gransnet is not exclusively for women.

The navel estate is also self- explanatory.

But Sodapop, as us all,wanted 'interesting'& 'entertaining' anecdotes- not boring office blah blah blah. As some seem to think,its not just to moan about stuff.

Toadinthehole

Your neighbour’s advice makes sense, but I wouldn’t like to leave certain windows open at night for security reasons.

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My Dh who is a intelligent will insist on putting the fan on and opening the window, i dont know how may times i have to explain why that when it is hot the windows and blinds are closed and then the fan goes on

PS to my previous post: Quizzer, please do not include me with 'us ladies' who 'always like to chat without male interference!' Frankly, I can't envisage anything so stultifying.

There's a saying in Spain that common sense is the least common of the senses, unfortunately true!

Oh dear.

At least Grandad recognises that men and women are equals!

I dont recognise the naval estate reference.

Granddad you stay here as I think it's nice to here things from a male perspective and I'm sure others do too.