AIBU - CV19 is over according to my OH

Have you had him tested for dementia? He has clearly lost touch with reality. And before anyone accuses me of being flippant, I have two close family members with dementia. I am gobsmacked by all the women writing on here about their selfish fucks of husbands. Get rid of them and be happy!

I like your style, Phloembundle.

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Flakesdayout.
Make sure he does stay in the camper van and after that sanitise everything he touches. He is unbelievably selfish
Given your complaint. Good luck

I have been going out shopping, trying to pick quiet times usually as early in the day as possible. I was also doing my neighbour's shopping as she chose to self isolate (74 & Type 2 Diabetic). About 3 weeks ago she asked me whether I would be willing to take her in my car as she was getting "cabin fever" & was desperate to actually do her own shopping. I felt fine with this & we took all precautions, she feels so much better now although it's only about once a week. I understand how frustrating it is not to be able to walk round a shop & pick up things yourself instead of giving some-one a list.

I am reluctant to go to pubs/restaurants/cafes or visit any the coast or Dartmoor as I live in a tourist area. Devon apart from Exeter & Plymouth has a very low level of Covid 19, I fear a spike due to the influx of tourists.

I only wear a mask when am required to, this morning I'm off for a blood test, I have to provide my own mask, from Friday I will wear one in shops. I also volunteer at our local Railway Station, mask must be worn at all times. I have several washable masks.

I believe we have to learn to live with this, hand sanitizer in my pocket/handbag at all times, something I did pre-Covid. Frequent hand washing is a must where possible

To be honest I do not know of anyone locally who has had it or knows anyone who has. A neighbour who is a nurse says patients are being sent to our local hospital from other areas as we have the spare capacity.
I do not think it is over but I am much less worried that I was & I have never worn a mask although I do have one.

I have been bending over backwards to protect my DH who has heart disease and PAD, he had his 2nd heart attack during lockdown and had a new valve fitted 2 weeks ago. The family are also being ultra careful, sitting in the garden accessed by the side gate. DH had a friend visit the other day, invited him in through the house! Now he wants another friend round and expected me to go pick this man up in the car!! I have obviously been wasting my time

I'm with crafty cat and am much less worried now - I only know of two people who have had it, both with underlying medical problems and both recovered. My son, DIL and GCs have gone to Corfu for a week - don't envy them the plane journey, but hope they have a lovely time. Obviously the health of the nation is important but we must thing about the economy and people's mental health and tgry and get back to some sort of normality.

always look after number one, you, no one else will and your story proves it!
Covid is not over we are just lucky the numbers are going down!
Keep inside, do NOT let the man inside and tell him you were / are shielding!

I'm in France and people are definately getting edgy again
as the first of restrictions come back in - compulsory wearing of masks in shops - I wouldn't travel to England at the moment because it would be an unnecessary risk be that the travelling or the covid numbers

You're absolutely NOT being unreasonable Flakes but sadly I think your OH is being unreasonable. Covid is still out there, regrouping and, some say, mutating, for another surge and sadly it's people like your OH who will help this to happen. I wear my mask while out shopping, but I didn't while at the petrol pumps as it was pay by card and nobody else was near. I did use

It will be law here next week with up to a £100 pound fine if you don’t do it

I can understand your anxiety, and am glad you have reached a compromise, which is what marriage is all about, after all He has given up his longed for trip to France for you. I assume that bikes are his life, in which case he will be struggling at the moment. He can work with his friend on the bike in the garage to give him a vital bit of normality, and assuming they are not in the prime of youth, his friend may need to use the loo, but that really isn't a problem, just put the wipes and sanitiser in there and ask your OH to rewipe everything once he has gone.

The virus is still here, it has not gone away. The trouble is because of the governments attitude towards it , lifting restrictions and trying to get the economy going ,people think it is over. It is not. I just feel people who think it is ok to do what they want should be told in no uncertain terms of the horrific things that occur to people who get this virus.

FlakesDayOut :
Thank goodness he has started to see sense, please feel free to use my husband and myself in your argument, we have had covid and have suffered terribly, neither of us are particularly old(late fifties) we have struggled to breathe and had the most terrifying symptoms, ended up in hospital with suspected stroke and blood clots, we are monitored every week, we have such terrible fatigue and midway through this, we thought we would never see loved ones again, we are not given to dramatics, but we are now week 10 of this horrendous disease, and we have NEVER suffered like this. It's still out there, it still wreakls havoc, maybe you will be lucky and have it mildly, we thought we had, at first until it developed. Be careful everybody, it's much worse than people think.

wreaks not wreakls.

Well it seems that according to the Tesco in my local area, Covid is gone!! No longer any barriers to queue for getting in; nobody on the door letting one out one in; no baskets in the lobby to wipe with provided sanitizer; no distance markings on floor; no one-way arrows on floor (not that anybody seemed to take notice of that); no queue for check out to let customers up to tills one at a time. So all back to normal as far as local Tesco is concerned!

Your husband is being very selfish, unreasonable and, dare I say it, ignorant.
He is one of the band that thinks because shops, pubs, etc are open it means that the danger is over. It’s NOT, and will continue to spread if people don’t behave responsibly.

It's certainly not over in Blackburn as we have just got to the top position of places with the highest amount of cases, and that's in spite of the special measures put in place last Wednesday - trouble is too many people aren't keeping to the measures. We may have to go into lockdown again now. Never thought we would overtake Leicester in the amount of cases. So it's not over as some people seem to think it is.

Very sadly Covid is not over and is unlikely to be for some considerable time yet. I wish you the very best of luck; if you are happier wearing a mask in your home do so. Wash your handed thoroughly and frequently and clean surfaces etc.
When out and about if someone near me doesn’t know what 2metres looks like I stand back, hold my arm out to ‘block’ them and say “please stand back - you don’t know what I have got”. It usually works!

No you are not being unreasonable and he is being very naive if he thinks it is all over...it will never be over as even with a vaccine it will still be about.
Why cant they do the motorbike outside on the driveway? If it has to be in the garage then ensure the main garage door is open for good ventilation.
If he insists on going to France let him but tell him he will need to isolate for at least 7 days to ensure he doesn't have it

Flake I reckon your husband's friend should stay in the campervan when he visits next week. Your husband can take meals out to him and put the dirty plates straight into the dishwasher. He should use the washing and loo facilities in the van, and your husband should go out there to sit with him and chat, and should clean the van thoroughly when his friend has left, and put his bedding and towels into the washing machine. The van is a self-contained unit - there is no need for him to enter the house.

If he wants a friend to visit, he can take responsibility for making sure that you are not exposed to any chance of infection, and if he is not prepared to do that, he can tell his friend that he values your health too much to risk it.

You are no being unreasonable at all. I have similar struggles with OH - he has to be constantly reminded to wash hands, use a facemask, gloves, etc. It is like living with a toddler...he told me that he was going to take public transport from Oxford to Suffolk to pick up a car his son is buying (as his son is "too busy" at the moment to do it himself!!). I said you are going on public transport via London??!! He said I can go via Birmingham as if that was any better. I then asked him was he staying with his son for 2 weeks after he delivered the car to him as he could not come directly home. His face was a picture......the penny dropped I was serious & he was on the phone to tell his son he could not help him. Honestly! And I also blame his son for not thinking. I find it exhausting enough trying to cope with the situation at the moment without the extra strain of dealing with OH who is in denial.........

Reddevil3

Here in France, it is law from today to wear a mask in enclosed places ie shops , restaurants. It has been law to wear them on public transport for a couple of months.
If you don’t obey, you risk a fine of 135€.
I ask myself why there aren’t fines for people who don’t follow the rules in the U.K.

Police numbers have been decimated over many years to save tax payers money (as per Conservative election promises) and since 2010 162 of the 323 magistrates courts then in England and Wales have closed, with many being sold off. This has resulted in a backlog of 480,000 cases (very little of this has anything to do with lock down) so in real terms there is no one available to impose a fine and nowhere to enforce the penalty. (Crown Courts are in an even worse state, and now the government is trying to use this as an excuse to remove trial by jury as a right)

You are totally in the right. We would all like to think this is over, but sadly it's not! I think he's being an idiot, and it's the idiots that tend to keep us in it's clutch!!
Like the idea about renting a flat, preferably with him in it, you stay put!! Good luck.