I have a tricky friend.

She asked you to play tennis, you said yes but then she never comfirmed- You went anyway- Then turned around and asked where she was, as though it was her fault you showed up, even though she didn't confirm-

Sounds to me like "both" of you are playing more than tennis-

I feel very uncomfortable reading a private text sent specifically to someone else. But having read it, the 'MRI negative' at the end could have had huge implications.

I think she would have said "I didn't realise the tennis was on" if that was the case.
Why would she say she was too knackered?

B9exchange

I feel very uncomfortable reading a private text sent specifically to someone else. But having read it, the 'MRI negative' at the end could have had huge implications.

Yes

Just read the text as I would read it and she says about 3 on Saturday would be good. As in is that OK with you ? But you don't answer her to make the arrangement definite. Its left open ended. I would have text her back saying yep 3 on Saturday is great see you then. That way you could have real go at her for not turning up. I just feel its a very loose arrangement and not one that is definite. However your friend does appear quite disrespectful in the way she responds by saying she was too tired. No real apology in fact she is making it sound like she is the one put out. There fore I would dump her as a friend because obviously she only cares about herself.

MissAdventure

I think she would have said "I didn't realise the tennis was on" if that was the case.
Why would she say she was too knackered?

Why would she go to the court without a confirmation?

She didn't say that it was OK. No confirmation. No need to be annoyed. Just a misunderstanding.

Because that is how some people text.
As I said, she would have pointed out that it wasn't confirmed if that was the case.

If it were me, I'd wait for her to suggest meeting, then stand her up. She's not much of a friend.

MissAdventure

Because that is how some people text.
As I said, she would have pointed out that it wasn't confirmed if that was the case.

I agree.

I think you need some time away from her to clear your head from irritation. The fact you posted it here shows that it got under your skin. It does read that neither of you confirmed definitely but maybe that's your phone style to each other. Her saying she was 'knackered' is an attempt at an apology that maybe she feels she shouldn't be making? If she hadn't turned up, didn't you contact her right away to ask if she was delayed?

I'd reply with 'Thanks for letting me know. I wasted an hour waiting for you. Ask John next time.'

I used to have a 'friend' like that OP who'd not turn up if a better offer came her way. Needless to say she is no longer a friend.

Texts & WhatsApp have their uses. Cheap or free. But every now and again a phone call is better I think. Less misunderstandings that way.
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Perhaps she was upset that you hadn’t asked how her MRI had gone or how her health was.

She didn't bother to reply to confirm that 3pm on Saturday would be fine, so I would have phoned her to make sure that she was coming.

However, her flippant reply was very rude.

Is there another thread somewhere where someone has said that her friend didn't bother to ask how her MRI scan went? All her friend was interested in was a ruddy game of tennis?

I do take your point about the MRI scan but I have been very supportive.
She did have 2 days to say she wasn’t going to turn up, before she was knackered! We usually make our arrangements in this way. Whoever makes the suggestion books the court. The court was booked. She must have booked it.
I’ve got it out of my system now. It’s just par for the course.
It’s a beautiful morning, we are having family round for lunch, onwards and upwards.
Thanks for letting me vent.

Callistemon, that comment was unfair.
I have been through a lot of scares with her. I was supportive through this one.

Sorry, Pamela
However, I was trying to look at it from the other point of view as I know neither of you.

But it doesn't seem very fair to post her texts on here - she could be a Gransnetter too.

Callistemon

Sorry, Pamela
However, I was trying to look at it from the other point of view as I know neither of you.

But it doesn't seem very fair to post her texts on here - she could be a Gransnetter too.

If she is a GN’er also, she might get the hint that you weren’t happy.

Perhaps she was having a dig because Pamela didn't first ask how the MRI scan went.

There are always two sides to every story, I was just trying to look at the discussion from the other point of view.

I am inclined to agree with everyone who says you can do without this friend.

Possibly, in your shoes, I'd ring her up and ask politely for an explanation.

It depends on how much you wish to have this friend in your life.

I know someone who sends a vague reply and leaves arrangements to me so I send a message with date, time, venue and what time we will be picking up. If I don't get an ? or a proper message I resend it a day or two later.