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Taliya Tue 28-Jul-20 15:10:53

I had to go into town today to buy my grandson a birthday card and post it and while I was there I thought I would go into the supermarket there to get a few things I could not get online ( not a supermarket I usually go to). I put my face mask on and did my shopping. I walked down an aisle to get to the checkout to pay and there was a middle aged lady and an older lady standing in the middle of the aisle chatting, so I walked round them giving them some distance. The next thing I know the middle aged lady starts shouting at the top of her voice....You are not social distancing etc and went on a rant at me. Well a few choice words were exchanged! I told the security guard on the way out and I think he went to have a word with her. They need to put signs up in shops now that it's unacceptable for customers to start shouting at other customers. During lockdown I never saw anyone shout at another customer. Since the face masks were introduced I've witnessed someone in another supermarket confront someone who wasn't wearing a mask. It's getting ridiculous now. I'm shopping for everything online from now because I don't need this kind of upset and hassle when I'm shopping. I'm not being unreasonable am I in expecting not to be shouted at. Loads of people over the last few months may have got closer than 2 meters to me while I'm shopping but I don't start shouting at them . People need to chill more .

Callistemon Tue 28-Jul-20 15:22:19

It was unacceptable for them to stand in the middle of the aisle chatting!

How can anyone distance when they do that?

Sallywally1 Tue 28-Jul-20 15:42:11

I think that at the start of all this there was a sense of pulling together in a crisis, but all that has gone now and there does seem to be more bad feeling around, which is a shame.

TerriBull Tue 28-Jul-20 16:15:22

You weren't in the wrong OP, they were. People shouldn't stand in the middle of the isle gas bagging, it's annoying under normal circumstances, but at the moment really off. The object of the exercise is to get in and out as quickly as possible, keeping as safe a distance as we can from other shoppers.

Oopsminty Tue 28-Jul-20 16:33:41

My friend was travelling on an almost empty train to Liverpool

She was 4 seats away from anyone. She discreetly lowered her mask to take a sip of water and got shouted at.

Not sure if you're not supposed to drink on the train but she was very apologetic and just coughed the rest of the journey due to allergies

BlueBelle Tue 28-Jul-20 16:44:15

I ve got to say considering I live in a so called deprived area everyone seems very civilised here and I haven’t come across anyone being nasty a few people have come in the shop not wearing masks but we have instructions not to challenge them so there we go it all seems quite relaxed and easy going

Sar53 Tue 28-Jul-20 16:55:47

The first time we went out after lockdown was to a garden centre. Everyone keeping their distance. All of a sudden the two ladies, one 40'sh the other 60'sh stopped in front of us in the middle of the aisle with their trolley blocking the aisle. I had to step around them to get past. The older lady was very rude to me, muttering about 'people not social distancing. I very politely said that if she hadn't just stopped and blocked the aisle it wouldn't have happened. At the time I was very upset and it really knocked my confidence.

Smileless2012 Tue 28-Jul-20 17:00:45

I was going to post the same as you Callistemon. I wonder if she'd felt comfortable shouting at you Taliya if she hadn't been hiding behind her mask.

Serendipity22 Tue 28-Jul-20 20:56:13

For goodness sake!!! It is getting to the point of you feel you're watched on your every moment

So, if you had asked these 2 ladies to "please move to 1 side as I want to pass." You would no doubt have had a confrontation because you were deemed 'impertant ' !!

Buggered if you do and buggered if you dont !
smile

SpringyChicken Tue 28-Jul-20 21:02:42

Upsetting though it was, Taliya, don't change your shopping habits , she was in the wrong for blocking the aisle . Horrible woman. Big hug xx

TrendyNannie6 Wed 29-Jul-20 09:19:21

The ladies shouldn’t have been standing in the middle if the aisle chatting so it was hardly your fault. Luckily we haven’t had any nastiness

crazygranny Wed 29-Jul-20 09:37:50

Some people will use any excuse available to boost their own self importance. You can tell that she has no real anxiety about the virus or she wouldn't be standing about chatting. Really sorry you were upset by her.

jocork Wed 29-Jul-20 09:41:15

I went shopping and on my way out of the supermarket spotted a friend I used to work with many years ago. We stopped to chat, then realised we were in everyone's way so made our way outside to continue the conversation. No one shouted at us thankfully but a few dirty looks made us move pretty quickly!
Unfortunately having been away from socialising for so long it is easy to forget ourselves when we see a friend unexpectedly. We all need to show a bit of patience and understanding and refrain from shouting at people unnecesarily. Usually a look is enough if someone is clearly in people's way or just a polite 'excuse me'.
As someone said further up, a lot of the 'pulling together in a crisis' has ended as people are out and about more, and although things aren't back to normal many people are starting to behave as if they are.

25Avalon Wed 29-Jul-20 09:43:24

Grass roots football is in the middle of starting up and amongst the myriad of rules is one that says no shouting. Shouting can propel the virus and be even more dangerous indoors. Even with a face mask on air and possibly virus will escape from the back of the mask.
What a horrible experience from a nasty bigoted woman. I can understand you being put off, but fortunately not everyone is like that. Most people are nice so don’t let it stop you if you want or need to go.

Sys2ad2 Wed 29-Jul-20 09:46:55

The problem is that people who have been isolating up until now do not know the rules. Elderly people getting too close. Whilst they were wrong to be chatting maybe you were too close when passing. I have been shopping throughout lockdown and learnt the rules. Now masks have been introduced it has made people become complacent it was a very bad move. Not many people are obeying the rules as they think they are now immune big mistake

B9exchange Wed 29-Jul-20 09:53:14

You poor soul, I get really upset when people shout at me too. But it wouldn't put me off shopping, you were unlucky to meet them, but no one else in the shop shouted at you, you have to look at the balance of probabilities of it happening again.

If they were standing in the middle of the aisle chatting, that would imply they had just met each other, so they weren't social distancing either!

It will have done you good to let off steam here, now put the experience with the idiots behind you and 'keep b*ggering on'! grin

cupcake1 Wed 29-Jul-20 09:53:18

Just shows their ignorance Taliya try not to let this put you off shopping they were in the wrong for blocking the isle. Selfish idiots. I witnessed a similar thing in Tesco yesterday an elderly lady shouted very aggressively at a young employee (neither were wearing a mask) “2metre distance don’t you know by now” the young girl said nothing but was obviously shocked. She was shelf stacking at the time.

Craftycat Wed 29-Jul-20 09:56:56

It's pretty poor show if you can't have a chat with a friend in a shop! OK so you should stand out of the way of other people but we are all missing speaking to friends & it would be good to get the chance to catch up.
I had a nice chat to an ex neighbour yesterday in Sainsbury's. We didn't annoy anyone.

Mapleleaf Wed 29-Jul-20 10:02:23

I'm afraid there always has been and always will be rude people. I'm sorry that you encountered two such people on your shopping trip Taliya and were upset by them. They were definitely in the wrong.

Although during this pandemic we have witnessed a lot of good behaviours and responses, it has also highlighted the less good side of human nature at times, too, including an attitude of intimidation by some towards others.

Sometimes, Sys2as2*, with the best will in the world, you can't help but get too close to some shoppers who either stop mid walk, back track with their trolley or stop to gossip! Very sweeping generalisation, too, to suggest not many people are obeying the rules. Many are trying to, some aren't.

Callistemon Wed 29-Jul-20 10:08:51

Craftycat

It's pretty poor show if you can't have a chat with a friend in a shop! OK so you should stand out of the way of other people but we are all missing speaking to friends & it would be good to get the chance to catch up.
I had a nice chat to an ex neighbour yesterday in Sainsbury's. We didn't annoy anyone.

Perhaps the two people could have arranged to meet for a catch up outside the shop when they'd finished their shopping?

A supermarket aisle during a pandemic when people are supposed to be self-distancing is surely not the best place for a chat!

PamelaJ1 Wed 29-Jul-20 10:20:18

Luckily I haven’t witnessed mask rage. There is no getting away from it, some people are just naturally rude.

I thought that it was perfectly acceptable to pass in aisles, am I wrong? If you couldn’t pass within social distancing rules then the advice I have been given is to avert your face and go quickly. If you can’t do that and people stand and had to wait for the chat To end you would be in there forever.

pollyperkins Wed 29-Jul-20 10:24:18

Well Ive been guilty of stopping to chat Ive not seen for ages in a supermarket but we did try to move aside so as not to block the aisle a a nd no-one shouted. In any case just passing someone quickly is not a problem - having a face to face conversation for 10 mins or so too close and without masks would be more risky.

pollyperkins Wed 29-Jul-20 10:24:46

I agree with Pamela

pollyperkins Wed 29-Jul-20 10:26:38

Sorry I wrote: ‘chat with someone I’ve not seen....’
Don't know why it disappeared!

Marydoll Wed 29-Jul-20 10:28:08

I thought that the advice in supermarkets was not to linger and chat in the aisles, as it makes it difficult for shoppers to socially distance, when trying to pass.

Some people are just plain thoughtless. sad
Go outside and have your chat, leaving room for others to shop safely.