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Shoppers shouting at other shoppers?

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Taliya Tue 28-Jul-20 15:10:53

I had to go into town today to buy my grandson a birthday card and post it and while I was there I thought I would go into the supermarket there to get a few things I could not get online ( not a supermarket I usually go to). I put my face mask on and did my shopping. I walked down an aisle to get to the checkout to pay and there was a middle aged lady and an older lady standing in the middle of the aisle chatting, so I walked round them giving them some distance. The next thing I know the middle aged lady starts shouting at the top of her voice....You are not social distancing etc and went on a rant at me. Well a few choice words were exchanged! I told the security guard on the way out and I think he went to have a word with her. They need to put signs up in shops now that it's unacceptable for customers to start shouting at other customers. During lockdown I never saw anyone shout at another customer. Since the face masks were introduced I've witnessed someone in another supermarket confront someone who wasn't wearing a mask. It's getting ridiculous now. I'm shopping for everything online from now because I don't need this kind of upset and hassle when I'm shopping. I'm not being unreasonable am I in expecting not to be shouted at. Loads of people over the last few months may have got closer than 2 meters to me while I'm shopping but I don't start shouting at them . People need to chill more .

JaneRn Wed 29-Jul-20 16:48:35

There have always been nasty, rude people but thankfully many more nice ones.

My philosophy when I am attacked by one of the nasties is that at least taking out their anger on me and are not at home kicking the cat!

Chewbacca Wed 29-Jul-20 17:06:35

I've come to the conclusion that society, as a whole, has become much angrier and confrontational since the beginning of lockdown. Everyone was angrily watching everyone else to see if the breached any "rules" and the constant cries of encouragement to repirt them to the police etc was continual. Now that more of us are out and about, many people are angry and frightened that despite all the precautions they take, they might still get infected with COVID. And being able hide behind a mask is like bullies who hide behind a computer screen; they've become braver in saying things that they wouldn't ordinarily have the guts to say.

nexus63 Wed 29-Jul-20 17:18:24

i have been shouted at in english and chinese, 3 chinese students shopping, one is dancing up and down the aisles and bumping into people, i asked her to stop when she bumped into me, she carried on dancing and making faces, i then asked her friend if she understood english and to tell her to stop, next thing they are all shouting at me in chinese, i have been shouted and tutted at while sitting on the floor of the supermarket having a seizure due to the mask bringing on my epilepsy. blocking the aisles i either loudly say excuse me and if they ignore i move there trolley.....but i always smile xx

Mollygo Wed 29-Jul-20 17:19:10

Chewbacca that is so true about the level of anger and the desire to point out other’s shortcomings and rule contraventions.

It’s as if it shouting, criticising, responding too sharply or relating how you have adhered faithfully to the regulations, gives you a feeling of being in control of ‘something’.
I think being afraid will be with us for a while.

Taliya Wed 29-Jul-20 17:41:22

Thanks for all your comments. Yes, I now have much sympathy for supermarket workers because after speaking to one they said they have had to police bad behaviour in Supermarkets during this crisis. I do think there needs to be a sign up saying to customers shouting at staff or other customers is unacceptable.

jerseygirl Wed 29-Jul-20 18:45:05

Online shopping, the way forward sadly.

Chardy Wed 29-Jul-20 20:12:05

Can't believe the number of people who stand in the middle (of a path, supermarket aisle etc) so you can't socially distance

H1954 Wed 29-Jul-20 20:40:04

It's not just inconsiderate customers who stand gossiping and block the aisles in our local supermarket, the order pickers are even worse! Bloody nuisances, they stand two abreast chatting away and no one can get past them!

SunnySusie Wed 29-Jul-20 21:01:15

Sounds like the person shouting was way out of order Taliya. I agree its all getting ridiculous. People have walked near to me loads of times in supermarkets, and its got worse since masks were introduced. I dont know if its the people who have been shielded who havent yet absorbed the new normal, or whether people think because of the mask there is less danger. However I wouldnt dream of shouting at any one, or even commenting. Its not my job to judge the behaviour of others and correct it.

NannyG123 Thu 30-Jul-20 11:47:03

I encountered during lockdown whilst shopping. 4 woman standing in the middle of an Isle chatting. At that time I was very nervous and didn't go down that aisle, until they decided to go their separate ways.