AIBU -to expect "sorry"?

No, not the same as at all.

You deserve better

A relationship is something that adds to your life, not spoils it. What does this relationship add to your life? X

Once an alcoholic always an alcoholic and an inconsiderate selfish unpleasant one as well by the sound of it. ( as they usually are) You don’t owe him anything and he is making you stressed and unhappy. Start afresh by yourself , it will only get worse.

I wasted ten years in a similar scenario. Get proactive, andca quality of life for yourself. These chaps are forever 6 years old. Long time since I was a mother. Good luck. Being alone is ok with me. Other people have to add to our lives not detract from it

There is more to 'sorry' than just saying the words. It has to be matched by deeds. Paying for a replacement carpet, buying a new glass coffee table,plus taking the person somewhere special or buying something they long for to show how truly sorry you are.

As it is your house, your home, I would tell him that he needs to find alternative accommodation

Gillybird you have aslef our opinion and that why I feel OK to give it

I really wouldn't of changed him and washed him No Way, he would have been left on the floor You are not his Mother

With regards to him saying sorry, saying I feel terrible really should be enough, it is the same as saying sorry, I feel you want more because you do actually deserve more, if I had do e all that you had done I would need more than just sorry I think

Having said all of that, if you love this guy I guess you will forgive him so I say choose Peace nor war, we all know that life is short Choose your battles in life

What he said or didn’t say is completely immaterial here - it’s his alcoholism and behaviour that is the issue.

This relationship is not going to work is it ?
You wouldn’t be making him homeless by kicking him out as you have mentioned a boat he stays on at times.

He will drag you down if you allow this to continue.

YANBU about the use of the word sorry but you are being a doormat (and more) for putting up with a drunk in your house. Swap him for a dog?
He's looking for a nurse not a partner.

The word sorry gets used in so many contexts. The one I object to is the "I'm so sorry BUT..... " which automatically cancels out any responsibility.

Would it really make a difference to how you feel if he said the S word?

I have just read your most recent post Jillybird and I think the reason he isn’t saying sorry is because he isn’t.
He is an Alcoholic and will blame everything on the drinking, this doesn’t include himself for having the drink. There are always excuses for the drink.
My DB was divorced twice and estranged from his children, it wasn’t his fault you understand, oh no, it was the drinking.......
He will go down and will take you down with him, as there is always a good excuse.
BTW, DB died of Alcoholic poisoning after one binge too many.

Crikey, why is he allowed indoors when he so obviously isn't house trained?

Are you really so desperate for company that you'll tolerate his behaviour?

I don't think the 'Sorry' thing is important as actions speak louder than words. Words are merely sounds.

You have a choice, though, accept the pillock - or kick him out!

You could ring al anon for the family of alcoholics and talk it through. www.al-anonuk.org.uk/helpline/

Sorry. Get out now.
It won't get any better; it will only get worse, and he hasn't reached the rock bottom alcoholics are supposed to experience before they even attempt to reform.

It is a long relationship to abandon, but your life, as well as your possessions, will be ruined by this man. He clearly isn't troubled by guilt feelings even when sober, and that is the real him.