Does anyone else.....

i see that you had a post in july /aug 2020 and had 19 replies and you wrote a very nice than-you to that. realise thats some time ago

Once again, thank you all so much for your wonderful, kind and lovely replies. ?

I occasionally put a post up on GNet and if it attracts other posts, that's nice, and if it doesn't that's ok too; I don't have any expectations on responses.

I sometimes post in response to a post, though quite often I find that what I would have said, someone else has already said and I haven't got anything to add.

Purplepixie (great name) there are far bigger things to worry or get upset about, so maybe it's best to just try to chill about it.

Purplepixie

Once again, thank you all so much for your wonderful, kind and lovely replies. ?

Anything else to add?

Well we ll have to agree to disagree
I don’t think a like button stops you from responding if you ve got anything to add but if you don’t have anything to add it’s an simple acknowledgement, which is nice to have

At one time I felt a bit like you, Purplepixie, but as I have posted more I have had some lovely replies and feel a bit more included. I think it depends what thread you post on, or what subject you start a thread on. I avoid the Politics thread like the plague - too much controversy for me! But on the whole I have found other posters friendly and inclusive. It's lovely to have a sounding board when I doubt myself!

purplepixie I’ve only been here since September, I don’t find any of this site has obvious cliques, just that some have been on here a longer time and have an online shared history. I post on the GM thread, but often it’s a statement of fact, weather blah, today I’ll be blah, so no acknowledgement required. I’d give it another go, it’s worth it.

OK, I'll give it another go. You've all be so kind and warm to me. Thank you. ?

But please no running naked...

I've noticed that the time of day posted makes a difference. There is the good morning crowd, and the game playing evening crowd. I'm in a different time zone so am often looking at threads once all the activity is over and everyone has gone to bed. I do feel I miss a bit of live action chit chat if there is a lively discussion, but I can catch up on it and add my two cents in time.

FannyCornforth

BlueBelle

A like button would be a dream from heaven because you would know your post had been acknowledged without having to post a reply and would feel so much more inclusive and friendly

No. A 'like' button is terrible.
It stops people from interacting properly.
It just becomes a binary decision ie like / don't like.
The more that I think about it, the more I'm against it. It is very Orwellian

Not my experience. I belong to a very active forum that introduced this after members requested it. It means people don't keep repeating the same things which is especially useful in discussions and improves the quality of threads rather than diminishing them. Also as on most forums there are people with very strong opinions or who sometimes lack "manners" when replying, someone will usually make an appropriate comment which others then like. It's a very effective way of ensuring that keyboard warriors are kept in check and keeps the forum as a friendly supportive place that is there for everyone to enjoy. It doesn't stop lively debates though.

So far I find Gransnet users to be friendly and very supportive and I hope I am the same.

I'm really surprised that anyone gets rotten pms. I've been on here for over eight years and just had the one. It was more puzzling than upsetting, and I felt sorry for the person who sent it.

I'm not a joiner, and have only posted a couple of times on the GM thread or Soop's. They seem very supportive of each other, and I'm sure wouldn't ignore you on purpose.

I have never received an unpleasant email in 10 years on GN and I am reasonably regular poster.

Did have one from a handsome colonel serving in Afghanistan, who if I had followed it up, would probably have asked for financial help, as he had left his credit card back in the US of A, but he love bombed almost everyone on GN on one day, so I wasn't impressed.

kitty has said what I was going to say - that at its inception, the good morning thread was just a ‘how do’ from everyone and no-one needed or expected a reply. It has developed fairly recently into a conversational thread because that’s what people seem to want from it now, or not, as the case may be. I’ve been on GN almost from the beginning and I’ve never had a nasty PM. Its rare for my posts to be acknowledged but I’m always pleased when they are. Keep posting; it’s early days for you yet?!

Sorry everyone if I don’t respond to your good morning post but in all fairness I forget what’s been said, I think mostly due to my poor memory. each and everyone of us should be treated respectfully and with kindness, this is a fabulous forum to vent daily thoughts in our own way, to give individual opinions and to seek supportive viewpoints. Those gns who don’t get what they need from this forum please don’t give up greater things will evolve.

I hardly ever get any response to my posts and Ive been on the good morning one for about 18 months.
I’m used to it now and don’t expect anyone to comment . It’s nice when someone does though! ?

Sometimes making a post on say "what do you have for breakfast" isn't going to elicit a response as I imagine, no one is really going to come back with a "what brand of Greek yogurt do you normally buy?" or "do you like your bacon crispy?" I think many of my posts are just me ruminating really.

I think sending nasty PMs is shocking, I've only had one in all the ten years I've been on GN, it makes me wonder about anyone who would do such a thing, no matter how much you disagree, sending someone you've never met a horrible PM is really off imo.

Belated welcome Purplepixie.

I'm relatively new here too and generally read and post on the Good Morning thread. I don't find it unfriendly or cliquey. Obviously some people have been on there a lot longer and know each other so are more likely to respond to each others posts. I have had posts acknowledged and done the same myself. As others have said, you can't realistically respond to every persons post. It doesn't mean yours has not been read. Friendships grow slowly as in real life....don't give up!

Nasty PM's are a different matter...report them.

Just curious but how do you block a poster you don’t want to read/ deal with ?

I think GN can appear unfriendly because many frequent posters know each other well, and know how to support or push each other’s buttons, as witnessed particularly on the politics threads. You need a good memory to remember posters, their interests and opinion on certain issues, and so I can’t participate in that sport

I think the “like” button is a bad idea, because it may encourage posters to be competitive, vying for popularity, and then GN would become truly unfriendly.

You can block getting PMs from a sender, but you can't block posts from them from appearing on the threads.

Elegran what I was wondering is something like an ‘ignore’ button. Not to remove their posts so much as not to have to look at them personally. I have come across this on some forums, very useful when you find someone very irritating! Keeps the blood pressure down!

As far as I know you can't do that on the threads. The "block" choice in your inbox does that - it blocks anyone who has sent you a nasty PM.

nanna8

Elegran what I was wondering is something like an ‘ignore’ button. Not to remove their posts so much as not to have to look at them personally. I have come across this on some forums, very useful when you find someone very irritating! Keeps the blood pressure down!

There was once a thread about that. I think GNHQ’s reasoning for not having it was that it would make some threads very confusing if people weren’t reacting to or were repeating what their hidden posts said.

I agree about the blood pressure though.