TV problems - DH's attitude

I'd stop paying towards it, personally can't see the purpose of splitting bills at all, but if you do, then you arent getting any benefit so stop unless you get to see stuff you want with good sound and pictures.

Are you loosing the will to live yet, Trisha ?
They’re not listening / reading, are they ?

You are not being unreasonable. Ask him for your money back and buy your own TV and put it elsewhere in the house.

JacquiG
Trishers tv is 4K. She said so 2 days ago !!!!!!

The remote probably just needs a battery. When was the last time you replaced it. Some men get very territorial over the television and what they see as 'their' programmes. So unless you have an interest in any of the programmes he watches, I personally would withdraw any further financial support and buy my own tv which I'd watch when he's watching all his beloved sport. Some men are just very short-sighted which we see as being selfish.

Good idea. Get your own TV but make it a bigger, better, 4k one.

No. He's being unfair. Why have such a great piece of technology which isn't being used properly. I would stop paying for stuff you don't watch, as well. Better still, make yourself familiar with the new control and start changing channels, find where Now is.

I should ask your son in law to programme in Now.

Agree, they are the devil to programme, these TVs.

Ask the place you bought it from to send an engineer to set it up and show you how to work it ..............that's what I did (apart from the NOW TV for which I have a different remote

Bit confused as sky and now tv are the same company. It seems like an overlap to me. U could always install now on another tv but seems a waste of money. Anything u get on Now could be included in your sky package probably cheaper. X

My husband never reads instructions first either! Only resorts to instructio - or me! - when things go wrong. He also has no patience which often disrupts doing things in an orderly fashion!

No, I certainly do not think you are being unreasonable. Men always seem to have to have the monopoly on the remote and it annoys me so much. Do you have a room that you can go and sit in and watch another TV? I would get another TV and stop paying towards the other one. We are not all joined at the hip.

It’s obvious that some of you can’t be arsed to read the thread.
Trisha has stated that her tv isn’t compatible with the Now app

Get another television definitely. I thought I was the only person on the planet with only one! My DH thinks two TVs is the path to separate rooms, separate beds, separate lives! Ridiculous! He'll say 'I'm easy' when I say I'd like to watch something but I can feel him mentally sighing until it's over. Sometimes I wonder how we've lasted forty five years with such different tastes.

You are not being unreasonable, your husband is.

It sounds to me that like my DH and me, neither of you really understand the new technology.

Your husband has got it into his head that he cannot access some of the channels he wants on your new TV. From comments on here, I gather he is barking up the wrong tree.

Do as suggested, get someone who really does know what they are doing to come and set up the TV properly for you.

And find out whether any of the channels you are apparently paying for are unnecessary.

We access nearly everything we want to watch over the computer and only pay for Netflix over and above our broadband connection.

If you both watch television regularly you should have as much say as your husband in what you watch. It is also ridiculous to have paid for an expensive new set and not use its functions.

Others have suggested that your husband is a bully, He may be, but to me we could be talking the onset of dementia or just the cussedness of old age, as he is unwilling or unable to accustom himself to new technology.

I am not good at it myself, but I can read a user's manual, (no doubt you can too) and if my attempts to do what it says don't work there is usually a help-line where some kind and patient youngster talks you through the process.

Because your Smart TV is connected to the Internet all you have to do is download the NOW TV app, no need for a stick! That's the whole point really.
As for the problem of your DH not 'allowing' you to watch your favourite programmes then I'd suggest stop paying half the subscriptions. If DH wants it all to himself then he has to pay for it all!

Have you asked your SIL as he seems to be tech savvy?

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

You should definitely be able to get Now TV. If it's not pre-installed, a stick or downloading an app should do it as you've discovered.
Your husband may be reluctant to admit he doesn't have the know-how to set it up and that's led to his selfish behaviour.
If he's being like this in other aspects of your life, however, you probably need to tackle it. Maybe once the TV issue is resolved, you need to work out how to discuss equality, sharing etc.
I'm not trying to be negative or suggest looking for problems, just commenting as someone who has been with a selfish partner in the past and you do need to guard against controlling behaviour.
My DH will sit and watch The Great British Sewing Bee with me ( and even select it if I forget) and I will watch Mega Machines or YouTube videos of engineers taking things to bits ( not all the time, of course) just so we can share each other's interests. I know that's probably a step too far for many!

I have a new smart tv, and have an app for NOW TV on it - I don't subscribe to it but I do to Netflix . As others have said you need to Google your TV model and find out how to add apps to it, I would be very surprised if you can't. And no, you are not being unreasonable, your husband is.

Polarbear2

I’m thinking he’s possibly a typical male who doesn’t really understand the way the new tv/remote works so is using the old one to cover his lack of knowledge. My OH reckons to be good at tech but is actually really rubbish. He doesn’t read instructions properly. Am sure there are other reasons and no you’re not being unreasonable- but the fragile male ego could be a factor.

Polarbear2 seems to me to have hit the nail on the head!

Has to be a second tv set up for his sports.

I would stop paying my half and get my own tellie. I I’m so grateful that neither of my husbands wanted to watch sport of any kind on the tv. We have a friend who watches football, rugby, golf and American baseball and then complains about the cost of Sky Sport.

I'm a woman and love football, I'd hate not being able to watch it. It's not just a man thing!
My main confusion in all this is the my money, his money thing which I find very odd.

Do just look at how it is set up - I am sure most of the issues can be overcome. If that fails - as someone else said do check out the source button to see if changing from HDMI to TV or visa versa allows you to access what you need. Keep trying!

I swear tvs would have to contribute to half the worlds divorces.
We have one tv and basically my husband watches what he wants on it, I have my ipad, a set of headphones and subscriptions to Netflix and prime.
My advice, get another tv

No I don’t think you are being unreasonable. We put our old Tv in another room so that either one of us can watch something else in there. You really need a good local TV guy. Ours is the best. DH thinks he can do it himself but at the end of the day the TV guy is worth every penny and nobody is left feeling resentful.