Just had my hair cut

I hate it too. It’s long and my husband trims the ends, I do my fringe. I hate being fussed and faffed around with and making small talk. No beauty treatments, manicures or pedicures either, all DIY.

I also hate it, it’s not the bit about looking in the mirror but all the fussing and faff that’s goes along with Meanless talk with it, if I had my way I would just have a dry cut but no one around here will do It has to be the works and I never like how the blow dry looks at then of it. And then there is the cost. But saying all this while sending the long winter months in SE Asia I found a lovely hairdresser in Cambodia an Italian chap who did a lovely job with the bonus of sharing a bottle wine and having lovely little fluffy dog on my lap. But back here I am growing it long to cut out the stress and cost.

That sounds like a good arrangement! My last hairdresser made such awful coffee I resorted to having water instead. And yes I always hated how it looked afterwards, couldn’t wait to get home and sort it out.

It is not something I think about, just somehing I do. I have straight hair that only looks good if it is cut really well, so I am prepared to spend to get what I want.

I never really notice the mirrors in hair dressers. I mean I know they are there and reflect me, but my mind doesn't notice the reflections.

Why people should hate seeing their reflections I do not know. They just show you how you look, your looks are a fact you live with 24/7 and they change over the years. What does it matter what it shows, whether ageing or beauty? i really do not understand all the time women, in particular, spend agonising about how they look.

Look around you, you are surrounded by people all looking different, some more like you, some less, none of them perfect, all leading perfectly normal lives at every age from 0-100. We are all just part of the amorphous crowd that we see in the streets and elsewhere. Being upset by the sight of your own face is ridiculous.

I love my hairdresser. He treats me like his mum and has seen me through so much. He wept as he shaved my head when I was having chemo. I have very fine baby hair now but he always makes me look good.

I have a lovely hairdresser who comes to my home and it takes about 15 minutes for her to cut my hair. She sometimes asks if she can bring her 4years old son with her and that is an added bonus for me
I've always hated going to a hairdresser's shop so this arrangement suits me perfectly.

My hairdresser is a friend of mine and I go to her house where she has her salon, but yet I dread it. I have a fringe, it's kind of my safety blanket as I have scars on my face from a dog bite and when she starts snipping away I get so tense. I know it's sounds ridiculous, but it's just me and my insecurities, so my trip to the hairdresser isn't something I look forward too. It's been 3 months at the minute, but as I have hair down past my shoulders I can leave it a while.

I hate having my hair cut so about two years ago...maybe more...I just decided to stop doing it, so now it just grows, no more hassles, no more wonky haircuts.

Is there anyone else who feel totally isolated, I wear hearing aids and have to take them out at the hairdressers? I am profoundly deaf, would love to chat whilst having my hair done. Luckily my hair dresser is lovely and has worked out basic signing!

I totally agree I hate having to look at my face I find myself wondering if a facelift would help then I look at my hands and think there's no point

I went for my six weekly root touch up yesterday. Another two hours of my life that I will not get back. I flippin hate it and dread each visit

I hate having my hair done, and always have. I have a lovely girl who comes to my house, has done for about the last 20 years, so she has become quite a friend. She does a good job, I wash it myself and her rates are reasonable, and I don’t have a mirror stuck in front of me. But….I still hate it. I grew it to my shoulders in lock down which now means just a quick trim, so doesn’t take so long.

I hate the hairdresser as I don't like anyone fussing with me. Had a perm once was hours and hours so never again. I dye my own hair, epilate, paint my own nails (rarely) etc. Avoid using a hair dryer if it's warm as I just sit outside.
I have my hair cut about twice a year as its quite long and straight so just a straight cut around. My hairdresser is lovely and I do enjoy chatting with her. But all the pampering No thanks.
My DD, on the other hand, loves all the beauty treatments as she doesn't take after me.

I can never stand going to the hairdressers.
Sitting in front of that mirror, looking at my own face for ages, and still coming home with "two strands and a nit".

I have to say it was preferable to how I am now, which is almost bald.

Years ago, when perms were all the rage, I found that going into a salon made me feel ill. All the smells and sprays etc. So I found someone to come to the house. Now, 40 years on , I really feel that she is stuck in a rut and regardless of what I ask her to do, she just does my hair the same. It looks fine, but I'm bored with it, but how can I go somewhere else after all these years ?

By being brave.
I'd be the same as you, though, too worried about upsetting her.

I really enjoy getting my hair cut, coloured and blow dried. Its 90 minutes of total relaxation. We chat, she has been doing my hair for about eight years so we catch up on family news, the children etc of course in summer the holidays get discussed. I book mine in three months in advance for every six weeks. My hairdresser works from home in a small one chair salon attached to her house. I wouldn’t change her.

As I have grown older, I really like my hair to kept short. Very much so at back, and just a little longer top and sides. So, it takes someone about tn minutes to do this - and I have been horrified at what so many charged me. Despite my age, my hair is thick and grows very quickly.

Before I moved, I used to go the local College hairdressing training department. Okay, had to allow something like two hours, but at least only paid a very small amount and the superviser always ensured it was finished properly.

Moving here nearly three years ago I went to a couple of hairdressers for this cut and just could not cope with the charges for that ten minute job. Then I discovered a great place on our High Street, all good hairdressers, no appointments, have to walk in and wait - never more than ten to fifteen minutes. wash my hair before I go, just get it cut - and pay (cash only accepted) £16.00. I take out my hearing aids as soon as I am sat in the chair, so pointedly ensuring there is no point in trying to have a conversation with me about my health, hobbies, holidays, etc. etc. Think the operatives are quite grateful to have a customer who is happy to have silence.

Jaffacake please don't be upset. I had surgery on my spine and as a consequence my hair thinned dreadfully. I hadn't felt ill or suffered pain, but my sympathetic and knowedgeable hairdresser explained that it is a trauma, and the body does not like it. This had often happened to her customers. She was right - it grew back, and I am several years older than you. After a trim, I left my hair in peace for several months, washing it with gentle bar soap and using a dryer minimally, and I took liquid iron over that time. Take heart - and I think your hairdresser was wrong and unkind.

I also have a home hairdresser but recently when away from home booked a wash and blow dry at a local salon there.
I don't mind the mirrors, I just don't look at me but watch what's going on around me.
What got me in the new place was the lack of conversation. Asked if I was going somewhere, I replied No but explained that I'm not physically able to blow dry my own hair and leaving it to dry itself results in me resembling a Kate Bush lookalike! And the conversation ended there.
The 2 staff both working on my hair, one quite young, maybe even teenage, and the other the mature shop owner talked to each other over my head.
I left with my usual wavy hair flat as a a pancake and resolved to try elsewhere next time.
I was disappointed as a salon visit is a little luxury for me. A coffee and chat is a part of it.

Just to add that when I took a short course of steroids for a chest infection a few years ago my hair came out in handfuls. This happened about 6-8 weeks after I'd finished the course. I went to GP and they told me it's a known side effect. Stopped gradually over the next few months. Some grew back but not quite as thick as it was. It was prednisolone.

I never used to like going but now I quite enjoy it. Even though I go to a salon my hairdresser lives not far away from me, so we know each other's families well. I've stopped colouring my hair so am really only there around 3/4 hr. I had a restyle yesterday and my hubby who is usually oblivious to such things said "WOW". You won't believe how good I felt! lol

I've cut my own hair si no ce I was 14 with a few working years at Salon/ home cut but young stylists seem to think that cos I'm not under40 I want to look like granny apple!!! I DETEST their ignorance of style and lack of capabilities with ANY har other than poker straight blonde!! .......had bad experiences, can you tell!?

Yesterday I had appointments both for a dental check up and a haircut. Both were unpleasant.
I just have my hair sprayed and cut, no shampooing and no blow dry and I hate it. At least at the dentist I don’t have to talk !

I’ve gone to my lovely hairdresser for at least 26 years and love him dearly. He has so much going on with other businesses and staff interrupting now that I feel he’s got complacent with me, I nervously changed my appointment to another man who I’ve known for years in the same premises and I can’t believe the attention I got! He went with the colourist and studied my history and advised how to do my colour section by section, he was so attentive. I feel dreadfully guilty about G though but I suppose he won’t mind.

But G did upset me once though, like you Jaffacake, I’m past my menopause, am on chemo, had lots of colours over the years and once, out of the blue, G picked up some hair and said ‘what’s happened to your hair, it used to be so thick, now it’s terribly thin, you can see your scalp at the top and look, it’s all breaking off’! As you can imagine, I burst into tears, I was so upset and embarrassed. He also said stupidly, ‘come off chemo then, it’s ruining your hair’! I said I couldn’t, I would die! Anyway, he told me to use Nioxin which I have and reduced my dose a little (purely non related) and my hair is a lot better, not quite the thick and abundant of my youth but it’ll do.