I wonder if you could help please.
I met a wonderful man in January at the height of lockdown, we only saw each other for 6 weeks but it was very tense (he was 20 years older) - his daughter has alot of mental health issues and he had to be there for her so he ended it. We dabbled as friends with benefits for a week or so and then I ended it.
I got in touch with him a few weeks ago as I was in his area. He messaged back saying he had been having a rubbish time and hearing from me lifted him.
He started messaging everyday and we exchanged dating stories we've since encountered.
After one date he had a few weeks back he messaged me straight after saying I was funny, then we started chatting about everyday things.
I told him I was meeting the last guy I saw for coffee and he texted later saying I could pop to his afterwards if I was in the area which I did. After speaking, his daughter then popped home and he introduced me to her as his good friend (whom I had never met, also thought it was a bit weird). I told him I had a date with someone else and when he walked me to my car he wished me "good luck for my date and the future"... I said that it sounded like we'd never talk again and he said we probably will.
On the day of my date he wished me luck then asked how it went later that evening. He then spent the whole evening then texting me. That weekend I had a friends birthday party and called him. He arranged to meet me atound the corner (my party was next to his house) and his daughter was home... the minute we meet up we started kissing more than once.
After this, he has went quite cold. I rarely hear from him and when I do he is asking about my next date as he "wants me to meet someone" he has said a few times that he will be envious but so happy for me.
I have a friend who is online dating and she messaged him for a laugh and they started talking about exs. He went on to tell her he had dated someone much younger (ie me) but had nothing in common so ended it he then said that I keep in touch with him about my dating experiences (which I don't he asks!) He then went on to say he would never her (ie me!) If he was dating or anything personal about his life (but he does? He's messaged me after his dates and tells me about his daughter)...
He messaged yesterday with a screen shot of a funny dating message but I haven't replied.
My question is... are we really friends? I suppose the coffee and kiss has confused me a little.
Any insight would be great.
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