Quizzer I don’t think you’re being unreasonable to be disappointed, but I do think perhaps you might have been a little more proactive in communicating that you wanted or expected something special to mark the occasion. In your shoes I would have been explicit about my hopes or expectations of the day.
As a family we have different sensibilities about gifts and cards. I know that I’m overly sensitive about cards - my son once (only once mind) sent me a ‘funny’ card for my birthday and I was ‘not amused’. My birthday was often overlooked when I was a child and on my 13th birthday my mum forgot and then gave me the money to go out and get my own card! It’s become a family joke that only once have all my biological children managed to send me a birthday card to arrive in time for my birthday. On the other hand my ‘additional’ children (i.e. Godchildren, foster children etc.) do usually make a special effort.
As regards gifts; if I think that my husband has been remiss in not buying me gifts when appropriate I’m not the slightest bit bothered as I buy something for myself and then tell him he owes me what it cost. For my birthday a few weeks back I bought myself a brand new (not charity shop) tunic, which my husband admired when I wore it for the first time and immediately said he’d pay for it as his birthday gift. I also treat myself to flowers if he hasn’t bought me any for a while and then tell him how much he owes me. He always pays up quite happily and usually with an apology for not buying them himself. ??
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To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic