AIBU - to feel bereft

Good, but don't overdo things.

Callistemon

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Sleep tight!
Hope you feel better tomorrow.

Thank you. I had a goodnight and a little better today xx

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Sleep tight!
Hope you feel better tomorrow.

Callistemon

^I will help him dry and put away^.
Go back to bed and ask him to bring you up a nice hot honey and lemon drink!
Don't be a martyr.

I can hear him drying as I type. I think my coolness towards him tonight has hit home. I told him how disappointed I am and he has taken it on board. As others have said he thought he was helping by leaving me in bed. He is making me a nightcap too. Result I think.

I will help him dry and put away.
Go back to bed and ask him to bring you up a nice hot honey and lemon drink!
Don't be a martyr.

Kim19

I hope you 'continued' to leave the washing up. I see that as the unforgivable part.

Left them and now my husband is washing them. I will help him dry and put away.

Thank you all for your feedback

Not unreasonable in cooking food, but leaving you the washing up?
Unforgiveable.
Stay in bed all day tomorrow, seriously.

merlotgran

I’d have gone straight back to bed and left the washing up in the sink.

I would definitely have gone back to bed, even if it meant cutting off my nose to spite my face.
Not unreasonable at all but they are very inconsiderate towards you?
You normally cook for your obviously grown up daughter so she can save money yet she is too precious to wash up!!
I would blow my top.

You were not feeling well and do not believe it unreasonable if H did not want to disturb you but he could have plated one for you ready for when you felt like eating.What would have made me annoyed was D not suggesting this to him.

Kim19

I hope you 'continued' to leave the washing up. I see that as the unforgivable part.

Me too!

Chicken broth is supposed to be the antibiotic and that's probably all I would feel like if I was ill.

I hope you found a clean bowl and left the washing up.

If I go to bed unwell I am lucky if my chap even checks on me! I could turn into a skeleton in our bed if feeding me was left to him.
However, I have had a meaningful chat with him & explained that a glass of juice beside the bed & a sandwich covered in cling film to devour when I wake/sleep/wake etc is very welcome. Just because I take to my bed doesn’t mean I’ve lost my appetite!
He’s taken my concerns on board and is much better at feeding my cold & starving the fever now!
Get well soon Mammar59.

Poor you, very mean of them. I think I would have sat down with them and suggested that it be divide up into three portions, bulked up with bread on the side if necessary or followed by bread and cheese or a dessert.
Stay in bed tomorrow until you really feel better only to get up for meals and no clearing up, they can do that. Take care.

I wouldn’t ever want my DH to cook dinner. He can’t cook at all, at least not what I’m happy eating.

At least they didn’t expect you to get up and cook. I’d be leaving the dishes for DH to do, as well. Colds make me very grumpy so I go and rest (vegetate) in bed. DH usually manages to make me hot drinks though.

Hope you are feeling better very soon.

Chicken soup has that magical touch when you feel poorly doesn't it I hope you are feeling better for it, I am sure you would have felt better if your daughter thought to do the pots and pans before she went home.

WOW! I would love my DH to do some cooking!! I even have a job getting him to go to the chippie!! Think he's been twice in the 6 years we have been in this house!
Just don't knock it!

I’d have gone straight back to bed and left the washing up in the sink.

A bit thoughtless yes, and you're not feeling well so need some tlc.
I would not do the dishes. What a cheek!

I really hate colds. They make you feel totally crap don't they Mammar and I know if I'm feeling unwell, it's as if all of my sensitivity is on the outside of my body.

Yes they were thoughtless and TBH it's the sort of thing Mr. S. could do without realising how it would make me feel. Now as for the dirty dishes, leave them until the morning and tell your H that you're just not up to seeing to them, so he'll have too.

get well soon.

I would have sided with them if they hadn't left you with the washing up to do... That's wrong

MamaCaz

I would have been put out too.

You have a bad cold, but that doesn't mean you don't still want to eat, and I think they were rather thoughtless.

Thank you. I do think they were thoughtless but my feelings were probably exaggerated too. Putting it on here has put those feelings to bed. The pots are still waiting though ??

I hope you 'continued' to leave the washing up. I see that as the unforgivable part.

I would have been put out too.

You have a bad cold, but that doesn't mean you don't still want to eat, and I think they were rather thoughtless.

PollyTickle

Hope you feel better soon. You’ll probably enjoy the steak all the more tomorrow. Is he cooking tomorrow too?

The above comment was meant for you. I guess I will get used too this ☺️

Mammar59

Thank you. I appreciate your feedback. I guess the illness has made me feel vulnerable.

No, I will be cooking and they left me the washing up. SonI am needed after all ??

I'm sorry you feel so poorly it's rubbish xx