I'm full of cold at the moment. It has been particularly full on. Not covid as I have tested twice. Today I made a pan of Chicken and Vegetable broth. I also took out some steak from the freezer for dinner and told my husband and daughter. We normally eat around 7pm to 8pm. Well I went for a lie down at 3:30 pm saying I'll be about an hour. I awake at 5pm to smell tea cooking. Go into the kitchen. Husband is taking dinner out of the oven. Crispy coated chicken! He says, 'I've cooked this for us two as we didn't know if you would sleep on. We thought you would have the rest of your soup'. I said 'You both knew I got the steak out and we don't normally eat this early'. The answer was, 'Well daughter wanted to go home early'. She has a flat nearby but eats with us for convenience and to save money. So why do I feel upset and bereft. Probably because when I am well I do all the cooking. I feel like I have had a premonition of what life could be without me around. It has quite affected me.
^I will help him dry and put away^. Go back to bed and ask him to bring you up a nice hot honey and lemon drink! Don't be a martyr.
I can hear him drying as I type. I think my coolness towards him tonight has hit home. I told him how disappointed I am and he has taken it on board. As others have said he thought he was helping by leaving me in bed. He is making me a nightcap too. Result I think.
I’d have gone straight back to bed and left the washing up in the sink.
I would definitely have gone back to bed, even if it meant cutting off my nose to spite my face. Not unreasonable at all but they are very inconsiderate towards you? You normally cook for your obviously grown up daughter so she can save money yet she is too precious to wash up!! I would blow my top.
You were not feeling well and do not believe it unreasonable if H did not want to disturb you but he could have plated one for you ready for when you felt like eating.What would have made me annoyed was D not suggesting this to him.
If I go to bed unwell I am lucky if my chap even checks on me! I could turn into a skeleton in our bed if feeding me was left to him. However, I have had a meaningful chat with him & explained that a glass of juice beside the bed & a sandwich covered in cling film to devour when I wake/sleep/wake etc is very welcome. Just because I take to my bed doesn’t mean I’ve lost my appetite! He’s taken my concerns on board and is much better at feeding my cold & starving the fever now! Get well soon Mammar59.
Poor you, very mean of them. I think I would have sat down with them and suggested that it be divide up into three portions, bulked up with bread on the side if necessary or followed by bread and cheese or a dessert. Stay in bed tomorrow until you really feel better only to get up for meals and no clearing up, they can do that. Take care.
I wouldn’t ever want my DH to cook dinner. He can’t cook at all, at least not what I’m happy eating.
At least they didn’t expect you to get up and cook. I’d be leaving the dishes for DH to do, as well. Colds make me very grumpy so I go and rest (vegetate) in bed. DH usually manages to make me hot drinks though.
Chicken soup has that magical touch when you feel poorly doesn't it I hope you are feeling better for it, I am sure you would have felt better if your daughter thought to do the pots and pans before she went home.
WOW! I would love my DH to do some cooking!! I even have a job getting him to go to the chippie!! Think he's been twice in the 6 years we have been in this house! Just don't knock it!
I really hate colds. They make you feel totally crap don't they Mammar and I know if I'm feeling unwell, it's as if all of my sensitivity is on the outside of my body.
Yes they were thoughtless and TBH it's the sort of thing Mr. S. could do without realising how it would make me feel. Now as for the dirty dishes, leave them until the morning and tell your H that you're just not up to seeing to them, so he'll have too.
You have a bad cold, but that doesn't mean you don't still want to eat, and I think they were rather thoughtless.
Thank you. I do think they were thoughtless but my feelings were probably exaggerated too. Putting it on here has put those feelings to bed. The pots are still waiting though ??