I've been friends with a woman for 13 years - she's a couple of years older than me, at 64, but was in a relationship with my son, for about 8 years.
I always got on with her, always liked her. She broke her wrist, then got breast cancer, and I supported them both emotionally, as well as doing their ironing every week for 6 months, and going with her to every radiotherapy session.
When they split up, she stayed in the house they were buying, and I remained friends with her. We bought each other Christmas and birthday presents every year. I used to pick her up 3 or 4 times a week, and we used to go to Zumba and Aqua Aerobics together. Every fortnight, my husband and I used to go out with her to various social clubs. When she had about 2 years of bother with her mum who had Alzheimer's, I was there to listen, a shoulder to cry on.
When Covid began, she was very anxious, wouldn't have anyone in her home, but I'd sit in her garden with her or we'd meet at the park. She had the vaccine, I didn't - I was a bit of an anti-vaxxer. Anyway, in July this year, I got Covid and Pneumonia, was on a ventilator for 2 weeks, and had a stroke whilst unconscious. My husband rang her to tell her. When I regained consciousness and was able to use my mobile, she and I exchanged a few messages, she said she'd visit when I got home and that she'd do my hair, that kind of thing.
I was in hospital for 6 weeks, she didn't ring once. I told her when I was home, she said she'd been very stressed with work (clerical work, from home) and that she missed seeing me. Still no call etc. She then sent me a card, through the post, which the Zumba ladies had all signed.
She's gone to the trouble of buying a card, getting others to sign it, buying a stamp and posting it, yet she lives LITERALLY 5 minutes' drive from me.
AIBU to think she could/should have rung me or called round?
