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My Daughter Lied

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Grannannan Mon 15-Nov-21 14:03:35

I fell out with an awful ( evil ) friend. She is cruel nasty mean. She doesn’t care about anyone but herself She put my Daughter down about her weight. She doesn’t care I’m in hospital for a very serious relationship. My Daughter said she would block her from Facebook but a friend of mine was visiting & showed me something on Facebook ( nothing to do with the ex friend) but I saw the ex friend had commented on my Daughter Facebook I looked at my Daughter friends on my friends phone & saw my Daughter is still friends with her on Facebook. So she’s able to do something on her phone which stops me seeing that’s she’s still friends But totally accidentally I saw my Daughter had lied to me. Why? & why would she want to be friends to a very very cruel woman. What should I do.
Please keep in mind my Daughter hates any kind of confrontation & would rather stop speaking to anyone

Shelflife Mon 15-Nov-21 18:36:43

Forget Face book!!!! Your daughters activity on FB is her business. Please stay out of it and concentrate on your relationship with your daughter. Concentrate on your health, I wish you well for your forthcoming operation.

sodapop Mon 15-Nov-21 18:40:09

Can't add any more to Shelflife's post. I too wish you well.

VioletSky Mon 15-Nov-21 18:57:22

I understand you are hurt but of all the possible reasons your daughter is still friends with this person, there are none to assume your daughter is trying to hurt you.

She could not have known that circumstances would arise where you were able to see this activity on someone else's facebook. Even if she has made the decision to remain friends with this person.

I think you need to let this go, you are obviously going through a lot. As long as your relationship with your daughter is positive I wouldn't worry.

Madgran77 Tue 16-Nov-21 12:24:16

Agree with VioketSky and others who say let this go and concentrate on your relationship with your daughter

sazz1 Tue 16-Nov-21 23:44:21

I wouldn't confront your daughter as that could lead to a breakdown of your relationship with her.
Now that you know she is still in contact with this friend take care what you share with your daughter incase the friend still talks to your daughter about you. You can protect your privacy now you have the knowledge.

Hetty58 Wed 17-Nov-21 01:53:26

She 'said she would block her from Facebook' - but hasn't yet. That doesn't make her a liar.

She may simply have forgotten what she said, or just hasn't got around to it yet. As others have said, just ignore it and concentrate on getting well, that's the important thing.

jeanie99 Sat 20-Nov-21 02:45:46

If your daughter is an adult then she can speak and socialize with anyone she wants.
I would never think of telling my grown up children who they could or couldn't associate with.