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Leaving husband in 60s

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Ydoc Tue 04-Jan-22 13:18:08

I wanted to do it for so long, i dreamt about it, daydreaned about it. Yesterday i did it i left my husband after 42 years aged 62. After having grief, then depression after losing my mum 5 years ago. I had got so i could no longer stand it at home, it was no longer home. Husband is worlds biggest coach potato, refuses to go anywhere, do anything. I could no longer witness it, even resorted to tablets to numb how bad i felt. The weight is just starting to lift off my shoulders.

midgey Tue 04-Jan-22 13:20:28

Well done you! Congratulations for having such courage and I hope you enjoy your new life. flowers or should that be ???

Grandmabatty Tue 04-Jan-22 13:20:43

Well done!! You have made a life changing decision which means you can move on.

Oopsadaisy1 Tue 04-Jan-22 13:22:45

All good wishes for your new life, well done.

SueDonim Tue 04-Jan-22 13:23:39

That’s a very brave thing to do. I hope life starts to look much brighter for you now! smile

Hithere Tue 04-Jan-22 13:24:43

Congrats!

crazyH Tue 04-Jan-22 13:29:06

For various reasons, I stayed with a cheating husband, for way too long. He finally left.
Well done you, for finding the courage to leave. Good luck with your new life ?

Blondiescot Tue 04-Jan-22 13:31:32

It takes a lot of courage to do what you've done. Well done, and I wish you lots of happiness for the future.

H1954 Tue 04-Jan-22 13:38:59

PM Sent

Kim19 Tue 04-Jan-22 13:58:37

Takes a lot of courage to do what you have just done. Bravo! Only sorry it was necessary but sincere good luck and enjoy your 'freedom' with no regrets. ?

Nana56 Tue 04-Jan-22 13:59:25

Well done, you're really brave. Good luck for the future

Luckygirl3 Tue 04-Jan-22 14:03:43

Time to fly ..... ! smile

avitorl Tue 04-Jan-22 14:34:27

Wishing you joy in your new life. I did it in my 60s and I have never regretted doing so.

halfpint1 Tue 04-Jan-22 14:37:06

17 years divorced and never a regret,had some wobbly times but kept on smiling. Well done you

Sparklefizz Tue 04-Jan-22 14:53:47

It takes a lot of courage ..... well done for realising that you deserve better although sorry that it was necessary. I'm 18 years divorced and have never regretted it.

flowers for you and good luck for the future. A new year and a new start. Big hugs to you.

Meer13511 Tue 04-Jan-22 14:56:33

Would this bother you ?
I had made some soup ; the recitpe called for a tin of plum tomatoes. DH goes past and says I should have used tin of chopped tomatoes. He is always telling me what I should/should not be doing. Should I just accept this ?

EllanVannin Tue 04-Jan-22 15:03:15

Good for you ! That's no life at all. Go while the going's good. Well done yourself and good luck for many happy years ahead.

Luckygirl3 Tue 04-Jan-22 15:20:22

Meer13511 - make one helping only and sit and enjoy.

DiscoDancer1975 Tue 04-Jan-22 15:20:48

Why did you leave? You could have sold the couch with him on it! ?

Seriously though, I do hope it works out for you now, and sad you had to make that choice. You’re the same age as me. We’ve been 40 years this year...but together 46 years.

All the very best?

DiscoDancer1975 Tue 04-Jan-22 15:21:21

been married

DiscoDancer1975 Tue 04-Jan-22 15:23:26

Meer13511

Would this bother you ?
I had made some soup ; the recitpe called for a tin of plum tomatoes. DH goes past and says I should have used tin of chopped tomatoes. He is always telling me what I should/should not be doing. Should I just accept this ?

I’d be worried if my husband stopped doing this. Always make light of it though. I’m sure I irritate him too!

Ladyleftfieldlover Tue 04-Jan-22 15:23:57

I hope everything goes well for you. ?

notgran Tue 04-Jan-22 15:57:50

DiscoDancer1975

Meer13511

Would this bother you ?
I had made some soup ; the recitpe called for a tin of plum tomatoes. DH goes past and says I should have used tin of chopped tomatoes. He is always telling me what I should/should not be doing. Should I just accept this ?

I’d be worried if my husband stopped doing this. Always make light of it though. I’m sure I irritate him too!

DiscoDancer1975 My thoughts exactly grin (I mean I must irritate my OH)

JaneJudge Tue 04-Jan-22 15:59:57

good for you smile

VioletSky Tue 04-Jan-22 16:01:54

That's amazing! Go forth and find all the happy!