Sleeping around

Perhaps I misread.

Your juxtaposition of “some approve of having a lot of sexual partners” with “others” who are faithful to their life partners, seemed to me to imply that they were exclusive of each other.

I meant some posters approve of it in all situations, and some disapprove in all situations, others differentiate between the committed and the uncommitted. Not being judgemental, just a statement of the opinions which have been aired on the thread, none of which seemed to imply double standards.

Double standards are when it is assumed that men will be promiscuous while women will be virtuous virgins. For every man who is sexually active there is an active woman. As my granny used to say when a girl was condemned for getting pregnant, "It takes two!"

I cant remember the post but there was a statement that said these women shouldn't be surprised when that man wont marry them. So I think there is sexism in some of the judgements.

Who on earth would want to marry a man who behaved like that!

there are so many sexist men

Galaxy

I cant remember the post but there was a statement that said these women shouldn't be surprised when that man wont marry them. So I think there is sexism in some of the judgements.

That was the one which sprang to mind when I spoke about hypocrisy and double standards!

Galaxy

I cant remember the post but there was a statement that said these women shouldn't be surprised when that man wont marry them. So I think there is sexism in some of the judgements.

That used to be the thinking didn't it? Women were encouraged to 'hold out' until the wedding night in case the man "got what he wanted" and disappeared from the horizon.

I think the reason a lot of men - and women too, now - won't get married is simply because they do not want the commitment that marriage entails... and it isn't just about sex. It's the whole shebang - having to consider another instead of doing your own thing all the time, nights at home instead of just going out with your mates when you feel like it, the tie of having children, a mortgage, in-laws, weekends spent doing jobs around the house instead of being out enjoying yourself.

If a man only marries you to "get what he wants" then he most likely is going to be a pretty poor life partner IMO.

Good for you. Sounds perfect