To visit daughter without DP?

I was just about to ask if your husband is controlling, and likely to cause an upset?

Tell him your daughter is having period problems that usually makes men run a mile ?

Go and see them while you can. My husband isn't my children's dad and although he likes to see them occasionally, it's not enough for me so I often go on my own, he would never ask me not to go and let's face it, it's only for a day. Go and enjoy your family

My partner sees his children alone every Sunday morning I am never asked to join in, yet I would not dream of seeing my son without him being around or come with me. I feel it says something about your relationship if you prefer to visit your family alone. Perhaps it also says something about me when I feel excluded on Sunday mornings.

We all need time to ourselves. Since DH retired I've felt myself chafing at the presence of another person in the house and yet all those hours he was at work I could get very lonely. Can't win can we?!

I like to go out for a drive on my own with my music on quite loud. Feel free that way.

Why not let your partner know you have arranged to have a ‘girly’ day with your DD. That sets it out pretty understandably for him, even though I hate the word girly!

Why not ask him if he minds you going alone when you mention that your DD has asked you to come?

If he is hard of hearing, it may well be a relief for him not to have to try and take part in a conversation.

You could say you have some mother-daughter stuff to talk about. I am sure he won't want to intrude on that.

My husband visits his son who is some miles away and can be gone for a whole day and I love it!
I never get to be on my own and I really enjoy having something that I like to eat and something that I like to watch on tv.
I do try to encourage him to spend some days with his son, but he’s never done it.
That would be bliss for me, I wouldn’t know what to do with myself ?.

I don't see the problem. My OH and I both have children from our previous marriages.
We often visit them separately. No one is offended.

Enjoy your day with your daughter .
Why shouldn't you ?
Don't ask permission or be apologetic - be matter of fact .
You aren't joined at the hip !

Looking back on my long tern relationship I now realise just unhealthy it was -I was constantly made to do what he wanted and under his control
on a suffocating daily basis .
Any relationship should be happy and creative not destructive .

BGB31

I haven’t seen my daughter and GC for a couple of months.
We both work and are often busy.
Next week is a possibility for them.
I’d really like to go on my own. I love my DP dearly but they don’t have a lot in common (he’s not her dad) and I feel I have to be aware of his needs when we’re there so I can’t concentrate on DD & DGC.
(He doesn’t demand this, it’s my feeling and I think he’d think I was being ridiculous if I said it). He’s also partially deaf but hates asking people to repeat themselves so often seems like he’s ignoring people.

I don’t want to hurt his feelings though, by asking if he minded if I went on my own.
I don’t mind him seeing his children on his own, but he doesn’t ask me not to come. It’s usually when I’m at work.

I don’t see the problem with you going alone. You’re not joined at the hip, me and DH don’t always visit my dd and her partner and gs on my own sometimes, it’s not a problem for us

I think you are overthinking this.
Do you live in each other’s pockets?

I am pleased this subject has come up. Have traced sister after 78 years and want to see her. Son did most work ( all really) via detective work and dna .
We both want it to be him and me only so will have to be firm with husband. Exciting though.

I would often go and see my mother with our children without my husband (their father)....not because they didn't get on but because he was working. Go by yourself Am sure he will be fine about it

For heavens sake, you're not conjoined twins. Just go.

BGB31

Thanks Baggs. I should have mentioned- it’s only a day trip!
Reading back, I think I am being ridiculous. Just don’t want to hurt his feelings as I said.

Have you considered that he might prefer to not go but is not wanting to hurt your feelings?