Over sharing….. personal information.

Dutch oven? No idea but it made me think of Dutch cap. Now there was a passion killer if ever there was one. Lost interest by the time the wretched thing was lubed up, squeezed between fingers, shot out of fingers, flew across the room. Catch it if you can. The nearest thing to a sex game back in the day. Yep, sorry, too much information again.

Horrified. I wouldn’t know where to look

I think your friend is giving TMI and, with respect, even your post has TMI. It would have been enough to say "my friend wants to discuss her sex life".
Btw, I'm no prude either although I have perhaps made myself sound that way.

I wouldnt want my best friend to discuss things like that with me, some things need to be kept private.

Gosh - I'm afraid I'd have laughed - totally not your business - cannot think what she expected you to say!

Most people will at some time experience the sexual side of their life and myself personally would not want to discuss this with a 'friend' regardless of how close we were.

I'm always astonished by the exceedingly personal things people tell me when I go to hospital appointments! No matter how I try to head them off and inch away they won't be stopped. Even the pandemic distancing didn't put them off bellowing the most intimate details at me. Last month some woman gave me the most graphic description of what had happened to her lady parts when she suffered from some fungal disease. I expected her to produce a photo at any moment.

"Why are you telling me this? It's not as if I can do anything about it."

Thanks for this post …. I haven’t laughed so much in ages!????????

AmberSpyglass

If it’s not something you want to discuss, just politely say that. There’s no need to be rude - there’s nothing immoral or shameful about our sex lives, but it’s fine if you don’t want to discuss it. Try and do it without embarrassing her or seeming judgemental though.

Exactly. Everyone is different.

I would just say 'sorry I can't help but you could ask your gp to refer you to a sex clinic'.

Dam right you should say, particularly as its making you feel uncomfortable. I have had an entire working career with predominantly women and have listened to things that would shock many of you but I would never share details of the intimacy experienced between my partner and I and if I felt uncomfortable by those conversations I would either protest
by showing a flat hand and exclaiming "too much information"or leave. Not prudish but do have respect for myself and my partner. Now thats not to say any chat about sex is off the cards. I am human after all but dont want to hear of my friends or colleagues personal experiences thank you very much.

I would be rather embarrassed .

Most of my English friends don't like to talk about sex .

Two of them are very keen on having affairs and are pretty upfront .

One of them even used to book sessions with her Doctor !

My daughters ( in their forties ) are completely frank about it .

My Indian friends are totally frank about sex .

The first time I was asked about my sexlife at a gentile ladies only afternoon tea - I was mortified .

Serendipity22

I can honestly say that neither myself nor any of my friends have felt the need to stoop so low.

I have a friend that has been in my life for well over 40 years and never once has sex been discussed, i would feel extremely uncomfortable and i most certainly would NOT engage in conversation about it, my face would say it all, no need for words.

“Stooping so low”???? I really don’t think she is doing anything wrong, but knowing that many people are prudish and do not like to discuss sex, the friend should have asked if you would mind if she put an intimate problem to you. Personally , I have never gone into details about my sex life with friends , although one or two have confided that they are ‘over it’ now. I think many women have been conditioned by their parents into thinking it’s sordid . I am pretty sure that younger women are not so coy.

It is about consent.
Not prudishness.
.if someone talks to another who hasn't consented about sex, it is tantamount to abuse.

Hence younger women complaining about being sent unsolicited dick pics.

Working in an office full of women in a previous life would embarrass the most open minded folk especially the men in earshot, although it was in general not personalised in any way- well most of the time ?! If you’re not happy with her sexual comments just say with flat hand in front of you TMI.

Discussing sex with a friend ( albeit without warning or concentrate) is hardly the same as being sent a “dick pic”. Look up meaning of prude- and I don’t think one has to apologise for being prudish .

Consent

I've just asked my sister and good friend to quickly grab the pink bag from my bedside table and pop it in the purple bin when I leave this mortal coil. I've not mentioned what's in it

I do think it's the same as being sent a dick pic.
If you and a friend enjoy chatting about sex all well and good, but if someone is ill at ease with it, then why would you bring up such subjects?

I think that’s hilarious !! I’d simply say I’m not even interested in my own sex life let alone hers !!

It’s just a matter of opinion. If anyone sent me a photo of their erect penis I would be mortified, but if a friend wanted to discuss her problem with having an orgasm and it made me uncomfortable, I could just say, “ I’m sorry I’d rather not talk about that”

and if she persisted knowing I didn’t like it , I probably wouldn’t see her again.

flowerofthewestx2

I've just asked my sister and good friend to quickly grab the pink bag from my bedside table and pop it in the purple bin when I leave this mortal coil. I've not mentioned what's in it

Well our purple bin is the bottle bin (in our case the jam jar bin ?) flowerofthewestx2
Did you mean the recycling bin? I can just imagine the contents of your pink bag being recycled. ?

Aha! So, you agree?
Honestly, it is considered abuse in my line of work, and as I say, if it was a man doing it...?