A friend & I fell out but we got back in touch last summer. She liked a post I put on face book I thanked her she asked to meet up we did. Everything was good we went to the lakes together had a lovely time.
After a few months My SIL caused problems stopping me seeing my Daughter ( she won’t go against him) & stopping me seeing my Grandchildren ( this has happened 4 times before) I didn’t get a Mother’s Day card or text from my Daughter or Grandchildren even though my Daughter said she loves me but her Husband comes first.
I have helped them so many times get them out of debt. Buy the Grandchildren their summer & winter clothes & I buy the Grandchildren their main presents at Birthday & Christmas upto £500 each. Plus all throughout the year I treat them. Plus we spend quality time together baking cakes & desserts. Playing board games planting flowers. But yet again my SIL has put a stop to it all. Because I found out he was lying to me about wanting to spend Christmas just the 4 of them one of the children slipped up & I asked my Daughter if I was the only one being left out ? I asked her this while taking them out on 23rd December having our own Christmas meal which was not cheap. Anyway she came clean & said yes he just doesn’t like you ( a week before he asked me for £200 ear phones which he got). I was in bits I said to my Daughter why can’t you say all your family are spending Christmas with us can’t you put up with my mum fir one day. She said no I’m not will to row with him over you ( she’s petrified he will leave her) he’s been unfaithful twice that I know of. He tried it on with me once.
Well this friend was so helpful good advice & support for 4 months then she said;
“I cannot do all this upset because it doesn't stop Im sorry it's too much for me. Take good care.” “ Just take good care u need to block your Daughter she is very cruel & doesn’t care, get on with your life.”
Bearing in mind in the past she’s had 2 bad marriages & I was there for her every single day on a daily basis she spoke & cried for over 2 years
I don’t want to lose her completely. I have had other friends who have disappeared due to the same personal family problems. Although my Daughter seems to have lots of friends there for her. Which makes me think it must be me or a good majority???
I want to say to my friend that I don’t want to lose her & remind her I was there for her for years on a daily basis But I don’t want to throw it up like tick for tat
How can I say to her I miss her & iv been so kind to her. I gave up seeing other friends to be with her while she cried in my arms for hours. Every night for at least 2 hours I let her speak I just listened I was always there.
We spoke about it a while ago & she thanked me. I said that’s just what friends do.
The day before she sent the texts saying she can’t be there for me anymore I was making a buffet for her while she went to the hair dressers
I’m really hurt. But miss her mostly.
Any advice, ideas. Would be so appreciated x
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