Seems to me that this is a situation where grandma is more likely to have an accurate idea about the circumstances then all of the commenters. If he shared a concern with his parents, after 6 years of marriage and two years of parenthood, that doesn't really sound over the top. It's hard for any of us to tell what's really going on, but as a parent of five and a mother who had PND, it's A hard road to hoe. However, I wouldn't just assume that he's a horrible person and a slacker and that she is utterly deserving of so much sympathy. Perhaps there were problems before the children arrived. I think they should work very hard to save their marriage for their well-being and for the twins' sake. I would point out that, if he's such a slacker it's unlikely that he would want to have the sole responsibility for two young, lively children. It sounds as if he has some real concerns in general which may lie a lot of this. At any rate, I didn't think OP sounded like the mother of a mama's boy. Sometimes I think women are so anxious to be supportive of other women that they just always want to blame the man. That's not an answer, either. As far as having lunch with your daughters-in-law, I always did that and still do with mine. It helps in a lot of small ways. There is nothing like a good relationship and friendship with your daughter-in-law. If you don't do it and don't feel the need to do it, fine. But I don't think it's strange at all to have hoped for that.
SNP and Greens end coalition deal
Scottish political mess. Is Devolution working?