Murderous intent?

Sadly one lady I know is obese, diabetic and cannot stop herself from having 'treats' or eating. She's now reached 86. She's got a load of other health problems too. I'm fond of her. Sadly she simply doesn't want to listen to her docs nor anyone else. She's in another country with a different way of paying for medical services, so is not a burden to the NHS.

? yes, there is Callistemon. Bet he’ll enjoy all that sugar, it’ll make a change from a tasty worm ?.

There's a little robin in the picture.

He's just waiting for us all to go before he starts on the chocolate eclairs ?

My daughter has worked in a care home. One lady, in her nineties had dementia and diabetes. Everyone, including the doctor, felt that, at her time of life and with her conditions, it was kinder to let her have the food and sweet treats she enjoys rather than restrict her because she might live a little longer but would be unhappy as a result. I think murderous intent is slightly far fetched, OP.

Honest to God - where does this stuff come from ? ??

When my lovely mum was on end of life care in hospital every night she would sit in anticipation waiting for my daily visit after I had finished work she would say to her 3 pals on the bay I can hear my girl walking down the ward now and be all ready to get into her wheelchair for me to push her outside for a cigarette (or 2) why should be denied her only pleasure at a grand old age same goes for her food choices we used to take in her favourite foods as the nurses where to busy to check she was eating her meals.

No 1 on The Times best selling list last year was How To Kill Your Family by Bella Mackie I saw someone reading this whilst on holiday recently

For goodness sake if she doesn’t want it, she’ll not eat this.
90 is a great age.
Why are you taking a photo of this?
Carer or family, what’s your role in this. Xx

My friends mum was 94 in a care home and used to sneak off to the toilet for a ciggy she’s recently lost her life but I have seen a picture of her in her latter days sitting at the dressing table putting full make up on ……..and why not
Talking of murderous intent is silly
I m beginning to think this is a spoof thread no sign of grammygrammy

My Mum is 90 and eats whatever she pleases. She isn’t diabetic though… She has decided that, at her age, why worry?!
At our local hospice, patients are allowed to smoke (outside) and eat whatever they like. Why not?

"Sugar" is contained in many foods. What non diabetics fail to understand that this haul is just overt sugar, which can be eaten in moderation.
Things like fruit, juice, bread, are the real naughties .
Just don't be overreacting

My mother is an 80 years old diabetic with dementia who will steal sweets and cakes if she doesn't have any. We endeavour to help her by giving her sugar free sweets but she becomes extremely belligerent if you try to discourage her from eating what she wants. Visiting her without something she likes is not a pleasant experience. We try to balance quality of life with quantity which isn't exactly the 100% diabetic diet but what is the point of living longer but unhappily. The most important thing is that my Mum doesn't die in screaming agony from complete body wide organ failure.

I'm presuming this is the UK from the items pictured but I'd be interested to know what your connection is to the situation?
Also, how do you know that it's this that's made her incontinent....
It's a rather bizarre post which isn't helped by your lack of responses.

Maybe you should submit this as a plot idea for ‘Doctors’!

Sugar is quite hard to give up, has she been told to stop eating sugar? The aim with T2 diabetes is to control blood sugar by eating a healthy, filling diet. Maybe she’s just hungry?

She didn’t have to eat it!

I wish someone would bake me cakes?

There's not that many..and if they're still there shes definitely NOT eating them is she.?

Bluebelle- i would join you?

No one is making her eat them. It’s not being forced down her throat. Very sad

Surely you wouldn’t buy an obese diabetic all these treats if you cared about her health? Having seen the appalling way some elderly people are treated, yes it does look to me like an attempt to speed up her demise,

Callistemon 'I don't know a lot about T1 diabetes but have a couple of friends with that condition and they carry sweets with them in case they need them.'

It's because Type 1 diabetics inject insulin. In a non-diabetic body, the pancreas produces just the right amount of insulin for the food eaten/to maintain the level of glucose in the blood. When you inject insulin, it's a fixed amount, calculated by you, and there are all sorts of things that can make your blood glucose levels too low (not enough carb in a meal, exercise, stress, alcohol, etc. etc.). If you go too low you risk going into a coma and death, so a quick snack of sweet food can avert this.

My nan had it explained to her time and again about healthy food choices.
She just said she hadn't got to her age to be having to count how many grapes she was "allowed".

A bit of a miserly offering if you ask me, considering ‘this same one’ managed to get 3 million quid, but, on balance…….

Sorry my post should have ended GrammyGrammy (not myGrammy).

I used to visit my 92 year old mum once a fortnight ….I don’t drive and was working full time with disabled husband …..so it’s all I could manage AND afford , as it meant two buses ..a train…and a taxi of 6 miles other end!! Her diet was reasonable … meat/ fish and two fresh veg and the occasional ( twice weekly) cream/ apple turnover , bought in to her by her cleaner/helper. She was not diabetic. But her doctor gave her a ‘diet sheet’ ….as she was only 5’2” and weighed 10 stones! I went one day to find her crying because the doctor said she had to “stop eating cakes”. I asked her a simple question…. did she want to stop eating two apple turnovers per week…. she said “no”. I screwed the diet sheet up and threw it out the window . And before anybody shouts about littering…. It was a gesture….I picked it up. She died 2 years later of old age! I’m content she didn’t ‘eat herself to death’. But instead enjoyed what she liked to eat all her life. We all have a choice … and once we’re passed 70 … people should ‘shut their yaps’ about the way we choose to go out of this world !

Am I the only one who didn't quite understand the post. Are you saying the elderly woman bought these for herself or did someone buy them for her. Why are they being photographed. I can't work out what's going on here.
Do you know the woman myGrammy