Men supermarket shopping

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While I accept that many men can cook and do the shopping perfectly well (all my sons are fine with it), I still find this YouTube clip funny. I think it was originally recommended by someone here on GN.

MrJ managed shopped just fine when I was ill a few years ago and actually cooked/cleared up too, fancy, a man doing all that!
Generally I shop, online mostly, but I’m retired and he works, seems fair to me.

VANECAM

It’s a well known fact that most if not almost all men are utterly useless in a domestic setting.

Utter tosh !!!!!!

My husband does most of our shopping. Men hold down jobs with more complicated stuff in all walks of life so there is no reason why they can't walk around some aisles and pick up stuff off the shelves.

Orlin shops efficiently, I shop efficiently but we don’t shop together. I go in with a list whizz round and out. He goes in with a list and takes longer. Together I can’t bear that he will spend ten minutes looking at tickets to work out which are cheapest per 100 ml. For goodness sake just pick one and move on.
Since covid we shop on line, I put in the general stuff and he adds what he wants, he probably changes a few bits if he thinks another size or brand will save 2p.
Hey ho.

My DH goes out most mornings and does a lot of our food shopping; he is excellent at finding bargains and takes advantage of special offers. He also does a lot of the cooking and is better at it than me as he is more organised with timings.

MerylStreep

VANECAM

It’s a well known fact that most if not almost all men are utterly useless in a domestic setting.

Utter tosh !!!!!!

It’s a well known fact.
Only saying!

And when their wives are no longer there through death or divorce, men just wither away and die due to their sheer inability to shop. Well known fact!

And when their wives are no longer there through death or divorce, men just wither away and die due to their sheer inability to shop. Well known fact!

Of course it isn’t a fact , it simply doesn’t hold water. Even in his 80’s my Dad coped with varying degrees of success (mostly due to his own poor health) after Mum died (I was 350 miles away). My sister-in-law passed away 3 1/2 years away and my brother was still alive last time I looked.

However some women like to perpetuate the myth that men are hopeless at shopping/in the kitchen in the same way that some men used to think women hadn’t the mental capacity to have the vote and some still like to think women can’t “do” finance/park a car/ put up a shelf or understand the finer points of the offside rule!

Well said Maw

Mine is OK he does a list, I add to it for extra stuff, then gets exactly what’s on the list - in 10mins flat.
Speedshopping.

LOL

Mine hates shopping but would if he had to but is a dab hand at clearing up!

VANECAM
I don’t know what circle of Neanderthals you mix with but your view isn’t representative of single/ widowed/ divorced men I know.

DH does most domestic chores but not cooking or good shopping. I rarely ask him to pick anything up in a shop....they never have what he has been asked to get!!!!

If my DH is going to be on his own for a few days, he can shop and cook ok, albeit for a limited and very highly predictable range of meals.

Normally, I both cook and do the shopping (mostly online since Covid). On the very rare occasion that I ask him to get anything for me from the supermarket, he will find it, but nearly always calls me about something to make sure it's the right thing. I don't mind that - I would do the same if the boot was on the other foot.

What I hated before started shopping online, was having him trailing round the supermarket with me.
He would either quite literally be in the way, standing between me and the product I wanted to get off the shelf, or, if I ever wanted or needed his opinion on anything, he would be nowhere to be seen! When tracked down, he would usually be standing examining the label on some obscure item.

Oh, and the fun I've had trying to reunite with him. I would spot him at the opposite end of the aisle, gazing up it, quite clearly searching for me, yet not seeing me, even though I would be jumping up and down, waving my hands wildly, to try to make myself visible. I would see him move on to the bottom of the next aisle, so I would do the same at my end and repeat my jumping and waving, and so it would go on until I would have to run several aisles ahead, race down one and finally be right there next to him where he couldn't fail to see me.
This trolley dash was funny the first time, and probably hilarious for anyone watching, but it became rather frustrating when it happened every week!

I generally do the weekly shop. I make a list and OH adds things to it. When I was in Vienna he did the weekly shop - it seems like he got everything that was required, OH was based in Albania for a couple of years and three years in Egypt. When I wasn’t visiting he managed perfectly well with shopping and cooking. He had a maid for cleaning though. I’m sure there are some men who think it beneath them to do household and domestic tasks. I haven’t met any. It isn’t helpful to generalise.

My Dh is a brilliant shopper, he certainly knows his way round our local supermarket. No worries on that score. So do my sons!

My mother in law was born in 1922. Her sons born in 1950 and 1955. Mr i was 29 when we met, we married a few years later. Mum I’m law reassured me that both her boys could clean, cook, shop and iron. ‘Their father was hopeless dear, I was determined my boys wouldn’t be’

Well said! I rarely go shopping with DH we ran a family retail business so because of that he actually hates shopping.
On the odd occasion I have asked DH to pick something up giving simple instruction even a pic of item required.

He never gets it’s right even though I have said exactly where in the shop the product will be.

Different wavelengths altogether so I prefer to shop alone.

Our SIL is lovely but hopeless, when my daughter had had their first child she sent him off to the their local market on a Saturday morning with a list for the veg and fruit and an instruction to buy whatever fresh fish he fancied from the fishmonger.
He came back moaning that fish was very expensive, he’d spent £80 on halibut, prawns and sole.
He had no idea of quantity and thought that was two meals worth.

My DP does all the cooking and virtually all of the shopping- he goes to the gym a few times a week and his gym is next to the big supermarket so he goes in on his way home.
I am eternally grateful to his mum, my DMiL, who brought up her “boys” to be excellent home makers and cooks. They can all cook, clean, do laundry and housework, look after their offspring and understand home management as well as holding down demanding jobs - in fact they are all as capable as most women!

So many facts, so little time ??? I expect there are still people who think the earth is flat.

One of the reasons there are some men who are useless at doing anything in the house is because their mothers made sure they never did anything and then their wives carried on doing everything for them. The first time my in-laws came to stay my mil was furious when she came home to find Mr A ironing his shirts for work. She insisted on doing it for him, 'a man shouldn't have to do ironing'. We left her to it rather than row about it and had a good laugh later. She went home and told all the family and her cronies about how her son wasn't being looked after. Mr A's sister was killing herself when she told us. My mother was another one who didn't think boys should have to do housework, although my brother's soon learnt when they had to.

recovering from a serious illness a few years back my son came over to do my shopping, supermarket is only 5 mins away, he phoned me 5 times for details on where items are , 2 items i asked for ..tomatos and iceberg lettuce, as this supermarket is the same as any other fruit/veg at the front, after 10 mins in the store he gave up, back in the house he was fiddling with his phone, then said, i have put money in your bank, do a large online shop..lol now i know why my DIL does all the shopping.

I agree there can be difficulty with sizes and types of things in the supermarket (bin liners were a good example). When you consider the range of goods we have to choose from it can be overwhelming, especially in a large supermarket which has even more selection. When faced with a choice of six items it's no wonder men can struggle, especially if they know the wrong item will get complaints back home.

My OH can shop. He does however buy far more than required and sometimes forgets the primary item he went out for.

If someone does a task regularly it becomes second nature, done almost without thinking in a way. When we have to tackle something that we are unfamiliar with its natural to flounder a bit isn't it?

Some of the comments on this thread are downright vicious.....some GNetters would dearly love to have their husbands there to go shopping for them. Have a thought when responding and give thanks that your man, despite his faults, is there with you.
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