Men supermarket shopping

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I was only having a moan because I am stuck in bed not feeling well and I don't pander to him, and I don't appreciate the sarky comments.

I think it was a general comment rather than directed at you.
Many women do pander to their OH.
My sister's husband never lifted a finger. He wouldn't have known where the shops where, other than the corner shop.
My sister was ill once and he asked her what number he usually ordered from the Chinese takeaway!

Of course men can shop some are better than women ….huge generalisations made here
He’s probably scared of getting it wrong
I ve no idea what the difference is between Gala and Royal Gala so maybe he didn’t want to incur your wrath if he chose wrongly ?
You clue is in your original post if you’d have gone away he would have done whatever he had to, but because you’re here he’s got to do it ‘your way’ and doesn’t want to get it wrong
I agree with the poster that said do an online shop and let him collect it then its all done your way

Anyway get well soon

JackyB very funny YouTube clip.

My husband can shop very well but doesn't really like doing it.
But he generally shares tasks.

My mother was born in 1907. She was determined that my brother and I would be treated equally when it came to chores. In fact, neither of us did very much, but it certainly wasn’t assumed that because he was a boy he needn’t do his share. He cooked for himself when he left home, but when he got married (late, at 39) I was shocked to find his wife did everything!

My father, also born 1907, did a certain amount - I believe he changed nappies. He always laid the fires and did the gardening. He didn’t really cook, until my mother became disabled when they were in their 70s. Then she told him what to do and he did it. When she died, he continued to shop and cook for himself until he died at 94.

No complaints here: I dislike shopping and am more than happy to let The Wonderful Man traipse up and down the supermarket aisles. He often cooks and does laundry too! He’s a ?

My husband is perfectly capable of doing a shop, but hates it so I usually do it. I am perfectly capable of watering the garden but I hate it so he usually does it - division of labour - everyone is happy!!

Yes I agree pandapatch each to their own and share the tasks we both dislike .

Mine can shop and indeed is probably better than me at most domestic tasks apart from cooking. I think it is the lack of common sense which is annoying. I,e they haven’t got x,y,z so would instead rather than choosing a,b,c, will phone me to make sure a,b,c are ok rather than using his initiative.

How come if I need, say, a hammer or a screwdriver from HIS(!) workshop I can put my hands on it immediately, but if he needed, say, a lemon squeezer, he'd have to open all the drawers and cupboards in the kitchen to locate it?

My dh once went shopping to a huge Asda and came back telling me they had no loo cleaner, no Harpic or anything else. No, none. Nothing! Yes, he did look. Properly!

(Needless to say he has form for the sort of ‘looking’ that consists of opening a cupboard or drawer and expecting whatever it is to appear instantly.)

After that little incident (incredulous disbelief/laughter from me) he’s learnt to ASK if he can’t find something. He does like shopping - it wasn’t a case of purposeful uselessness in the hope of not being expected to it again.

My DH was a seasoned shopper; he loved it. He knew just what we had run out of and what brand to buy. I tend to forget things like floor cleaner, pan scourers and bleach, and never ponder whether one sized pack of something is better value than another. He did tend to linger longer than necessary in the sweetie and biscuit aisle, and couldn’t resist a bottle of scotch if it was on offer. I miss him now I have to do it on my own but always feel he’s looking over my shoulder saying “watch the sell by date on that one” or “the twin pack is better value”!?. I’m more your “grab it and run” sort of shopper!

Greyduster

My DH was a seasoned shopper; he loved it. He knew just what we had run out of and what brand to buy. I tend to forget things like floor cleaner, pan scourers and bleach, and never ponder whether one sized pack of something is better value than another. He did tend to linger longer than necessary in the sweetie and biscuit aisle, and couldn’t resist a bottle of scotch if it was on offer. I miss him now I have to do it on my own but always feel he’s looking over my shoulder saying “watch the sell by date on that one” or “the twin pack is better value”!?. I’m more your “grab it and run” sort of shopper!

A lovely post Grey duster.
Best wishes.

Mr R is perfectly happy to do the weekly shopping - he is going to do it today. I write the list and add a few comments to make sure he gets the right thing - Shreddies/Blue box for example. What does slightly irritate me is the fact that as soon as he gets back I have to be there as he unpacks to admire everything he has chosen and there is only so much you say about a six pack of toilet rolls really!
I would like to add as far as cleaning is concerned he is always happy to get involved and is much more thorough at hoovering than I am and when he cleans the kitchen sink it is a joy to behold (but I do, of course, have to admire it after it's done!)

What does slightly irritate me is the fact that as soon as he gets back I have to be there as he unpacks to admire everything he has chosen and there is only so much you say about a six pack of toilet rolls really!
DanniRae?

DH is good at shopping. He organises the fortnightly online shop, with extra input from me. He has his own list for the local independent shops once a week, whilst I have my own list at a different small supermarket. He is very decisive, but slow because he can’t walk fast. We shop separately, but co- ordinate our lists.
Probably his best contribution to household tasks.