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to be disheartened with people

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MarilynneT33 Mon 18-Jul-22 18:31:16

I'll try to be as brief as I can. Me and hubby live in a studio flat overlooking the sea. Hallway, bathroom, lounge/bedroom and separate kitchen. We've been here 31 years. Yesterday was my 70th birthday and was a complete non event. I have 2 daughters. Both live about an hour away. They always get gifts for Christmas and birthdays of us and not cheap either. I didn't get one gift for my birthday but then every birthday I've ever had hasn't been up to much with either family or friends. My eldest didn't send a card or a text and was a bit snotty with me the other day. I sent a pic of a basket of flowers she gave me on Mothers Day which is still going strong and said Is that a hint for your birthday. My youngest always finds a reason for not coming over so we said we would go over to hers this coming weekend that was over a week ago but now her boyfriend has a hospital appointment so it will be the next weekend. I did get a card off her and a phone call. My hubby hasn't bought anything and is quite capable of using the internet to buy something. My friend hasn't sent a card although I send her one and she has my address. Not one card with 70 on especially my brother in law and wife who said she didn't know it was my 70th even though it's on my FB profile. I've got my niece on FB but not one message from her. I should try and let this go over my head but I go out of my way for other people. My hubby's auntie rang last night to wish me Happy Birthday and we had a little chat but what she said just put the icing on an already deflated cake. We were talking about the heat and she said oh it must be bad in your poky flat. I feel like having a right good swear and saying to hell with people. Thanks for letting me bend your ears. xxx

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Smileless2012 Mon 25-Jul-22 12:20:22

I think we know whether someone appreciates their birthday to be acknowledged, even if it's just a card, so why not do it?

It's no big deal is it? Doesn't have to be an expensive gift as it's the thought that counts.

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LauraNorderr Mon 25-Jul-22 12:33:55

?happy birthday Marilynne, treat yourself to something lovely, preferably something big and noticeable so that when they all comment you can tell them it was your 70th birthday present to yourself.
A flat with a sea view means a flat with a sea breeze, sounds as though Aunty might be a bit jealous.

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Jag1 Tue 26-Jul-22 17:08:44

Happy Belated Birthday Wishes ?

Don’t let other people ruin what is Special to you. Buy yourself something nice, a piece of Jewellry or a new Bag or something you will enjoy. And if anyone should notice it, tell them ‘It’s what I bought myself for my 70th Birthday’ ?

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MarilynneT33 Tue 02-Aug-22 01:41:19

Thanks all for your birthday wishes. I am waiting for a delivery today of a new lens for my camera (hubby's present). I still haven't heard from my eldest and the visit to my youngest was another non event as she rang the day before to say her boyfriend wasn't well. Now we are supposed to be going this weekend. This is getting to be a common event with family and a friend of mine. Making arrangements for a visit then ringing up at the last minute to cancel. Now we have an invitation to a 55th birthday of DH sister 50 miles away. 7pm till late it says but it means driving there and back, buying a card and present. I don't like the thought of driving 50 miles late at night even though I won't be on my own. So here's a question How do I decline the invitation?

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