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Lady who likes to shine

(56 Posts)
Summerlove Fri 19-Aug-22 13:28:25

Maybe its time to join a group that she hasnt joined yet?

I find it odd that you want this woman to make herself smaller in order for you to feel better.

Caleo Fri 19-Aug-22 13:18:38

While a knowledgeable and clever member is always welcome, it's bad manners to brag.

"doesn't allow anyone else to talk without interrupting and talking about herself and what she does and where she goes." is bragging or boasting. This may be due to her never having learned this rule of good conversation.

It's always nice when a group is so secure and trusting that it's safe to tease any member when they display a bad habit.

nanna8 Fri 19-Aug-22 13:06:50

Definitely always one ! The one we have is a right pain in the backside but I have to admit she is very capable and gets things done quickly. I don’t answer many of her copious phone calls, she just gives me the you know what’s but I do admire her, I have to admit. The thing that really ps me off is her interference in things she knows nothing about, plain nosiness really. The

Nannagarra Fri 19-Aug-22 12:16:13

Mentally filter her out whilst continuing to attend. There’s always one!

Elizabeth27 Fri 19-Aug-22 12:15:55

You cannot blame her for baking the best cakes.

Every group has its queen bee, and I agree they are an absolute pain in lots of ways but they are also the one that gets things done.

We have one in our village, a prominent member of every group, a woman to avoid wherever possible.

I have no advice, these people are very thick-skinned and always have a small group of followers that fawn around the queen bee reinforcing her feelings of greatness.

LeonoraRavenscroft Fri 19-Aug-22 11:44:03

Am I being unreasonable? I belong to a social group of pensioners where one lady is always trying to be at the centre of everything. She bakes the best cakes, gives gifts to people, is always the first to offer an opinion and post on social media and belongs to every voluntary group she can. I used to enjoy this group but now find this woman doesn't allow anyone else to talk without interrupting and talking about herself and what she does and where she goes. What to do?