Stepson aggressive towards me

I would be worried about your future, as stepson would think he has a claim on your partner’s estate. Unfortunately unmarried partners don’t have a leg to stand on, if anything happens to your DP. You need advice moving forward and you do not deserve this harassment.

Like Carenza123 I'm also worried for you in the future.

What is the plan for your home and estate if/when one of you dies?
Do you both have a will?
Who will "speak" for your partner if he cannot speak for himself? Currently this seems to be his son.
Please have a conversation with your partner about how to sort out the practical things in your lives then at least you are both secure.

I think your partner won't want to cut his son off.
Maybe now is the time to have a conversation with your partner about your lives together. Put the son to one side for now.
Sort yourselves out.

As you are renting would you be able to afford the rent + bills if you partner dies? Also his son is his next of kin and could make decisions which would directly impact on you financially and emotionally. Your best protection is marriage. If that is not an option you need legal protection e.g. Power of attorney etc.

I am wondering why you are not married?
Sorry to be brutal but your partner gets all the advantages whilst offering you only temporary accommodation as a live-in carer. Selling his property and buying his son a house with the proceeds sounds decidedly fishy; should he need to go into care I believe there would be a claim on the property he bought for his son.
Meanwhile, you have absolutely no security at all, and a hostile relative abusing you, (I cannot see why) but about which your partner does nothing.
I think you are in a dangerous situation and you need to protect yourself.

I think there would be a claim on the property if he needed to go into care within 7 years of selling his house and using the money to buy one for his son.

Had a friend who has a similar problem. Couple had lived together for decades, they resolved it by getting married no fuss wedding only few friends aware.
Then sorted out a joint Will.
Really hope you sort this, lots of good advise on here.

Or a civil partnership
Or get a solicitor to draw up a legal document

Why on earth did your partner deliberately deprive himself of his asset (house). Won't this have implications if he needs rest home care?

You and your partner need to have a long well overdue conversation. Your future needs to be secure and finances need to be in place for your partners care.
The stepson should see your partner when you are not there if at all. Why would you put yourself in such a position being bullied by a stepson who has too much to say about how you live?

I have just re-read my earlier post where I said "sort yourselves out" - it now sounds a bit rude. What I really meant was for you and your partner to resolve your situation for the future so that the son doesn't do all he deciding and isn't seen as the only person with a voice.

Maybe a civil partnership is a good idea and simple.
It doesn't have the same overtones as a marriage but does give you protections.

Wishing you well. Sorry if I sounded harsh. This wasn't my intention.

I may sound a bit harsh with my opinion too. I tend to say it ‘how it is’ it’s something I would say to someone I know. I hope avalon123 you sort your situation out at this time of life know one needs extra worries.

Did your DP put the property solely in his sons name, or is DP on the deeds? If DP is on the deeds, he could start charging rent - bet that would upset his son!
He could also put something in place so that the property goes to the grandchildren, so his son can't just sell it.
I think your DP should have words with his son & sons partner (I wonder if she knows what he's doing) and tell him/them he chose you as his partner and if he/they don't like it they can cut ties as there isn't any inheritance left to give now!!
DP needs to tell his son that you pay a lot into your relationship and that you do not sponge off him, unlike someone else!

Smileless2012

Well in the meantime avalon step up to the mark and do something about it yourself. Tell this entitled son of your partner that you will not tolerate it and as I suggested in my first response, that if he doesn't desist you'll be taking legal advice with or without his father's approval.

Frankly, I would not bother saying the above either to the son or to the father.

Just take legal advice now, both regarding this young man's harrassment if it is that, and more importantly how you will be placed if your partner dies, and how you both will be placed if he has to go in to care, or if you do.

Why do you and your partner not marry? Inheritance is not the issue, you say, but a wife still has more rights than what we Scots call a bidey-in lover.