Posts and Responses to them

Not this again. A few weeks ago we had a huge long thread along these lines. Sorry but let’s not rehash all that.

Everyone has a choice to read or not read a thread

Didn’t see the last thread sorry Thanks for the update

SisterAct

Didn’t see the last thread sorry Thanks for the update

I'd not seen it either but we've been told!

"Everyone has a choice to read or not read a thread".... although its not quite like that online is it?

You don't always get the clear gist of whether a thread is something you would like or dislike from the heading, and you can only find out for sure by reading it, after which you can't unread it can you?

I think the issue is that a lot of people seem to forget their manners when posting and if everyone could just be respectful when posting then there should be very few issues emerging.

Also, people are entitled to try to crack jokes and if like in real life these are sometimes ill judged or ill received then that could be politely pointed out and the poster given the opportunity of rewording or apologising if appropriate.

If we are all adults then we should all behave like adults, and we do sometimes get things wrong.

DorothyGlamour, whilst I agree there is place for humour on some threads, it is not the case for all threads.

Where a Poster has genuine concerns, and is seeking advice, responses making light is not kind, and in your words, not behaving like an adult.

Yes, and that is an example of where someone has got it wrong, and should be easily sorted, rather than involve all of the righteous indignation that results on here, often by others and not always by the person the comment was aimed at.

Like I said, we all sometimes get things wrong.

Sorry Dorothy, I'm not understanding you?

"Where a Poster has genuine concerns, and is seeking advice, responses making light is not kind, and in your words, not behaving like an adult."

The poster of the " joke" might simply have got it wrong, and it could have been politely pointed out, leaving an opportunity for an apology, with no need for lots of aggressive comments by various others.

ie, we ALL should be behaving like adults, but we all sometimes get things wrong.

We'll have to agree to disagree on this DorothyGlamour, as there was no way the post in question in my mind open for light-hearted banter.

Lucca

Not this again. A few weeks ago we had a huge long thread along these lines. Sorry but let’s not rehash all that.

So, immediately, an unpleasant & dismissive response.

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Hello All, just to clarify, my previous post was meant to convey
my support of FarNorth's post. When I read the 2nd post here I did feel :[

It probably needs to come up now and then because older posts are not read by us all so it will be new for many. A few weeks ago is a heck of a long time in the online world. Is SisterAct is worried about it she is perfectly entitled to raise the issue.

It wasn’t long ago and involved comments about and from mumsnet.
It was not my intention to be either dismissive or unpleasant, that’s not my style. So apologies and I’ll leave you to it,

The last thread got quite nasty, and as always, involved accusations that ‘some people’ do unspecified bad things, which never solves anything, IMO. Everyone starts wondering if it is a sly dig at them, except the ones who are being targeted for a dig, who assume it must be someone else in the frame. A number of very valued posters have left as a direct result of that thread, and given that it was supposedly started in response to bullying, that is ironic to say the least if the intention was honourable.

Also, people have different tolerances of disagreement. One person’s nastiness is another’s robust debate, and there are those who see any disagreement with their opinion as rudeness. It feels odd to me, but there are others who seem genuinely to see name-calling as acceptable so will never think that oblique comments are directed at them, or be prepared to stop doing it - so it’s all a bit pointless.

I think it’s better to challenge on the thread when something happens that you (generic) don’t like, so everyone can see what’s going on and the poster can defend herself if she feels that the accusation is unfair.

That’s just my opinion though, and people will continue (rightly) to do what they think best, so I realise that I am contributing to the ‘going round in circles’ thing that I am complaining about

Not for the first time I haven’t a clue what’s going on or which responses on what thread have caused the problem. Or even what the problem is.

Wouldn’t it be better just to address any issues on the thread itself?

The issues were addressed on the posts,many with nasty remarks about the posters.

Right - I am prepared to duck behind the sofa after this comment but I am like Lucca thinking “oh, here we go again”. If anybody is still in the dark, it was that lengthy thread, echoed on Mumsnet, basically saying how rubbish everybody on GN is.
Now I do not know if OP is a returnee with a new username or a new member. Some of the responses have also come from unfamiliar posters (not all, granted) and after the flaming “we” on GN got just a few weeks ago on MN and from people we had never heard of before or since, I just wish that if OP and others have a problem they would address it directly instead of obliquely, leaving many wondering Who? What?Was it me?

Isn't it rather underhand to start a thread about other threads - especially if you have decided you are the only one who know how to "behave like and adult"? The rules are that if you feel something breaks the rules you report it, not sneak around on another thread discussing others behind their backs.

You may feel this is "adult" (a word with many meanings), I find it rather childish.

I have no idea which thread has sparked this rather nasty one; I expect many others don't either.

kircubbin2000

The issues were addressed on the posts,many with nasty remarks about the posters.

Ah. Well I'm out of the loop as ever .

Frustrating, I'm sure, but if people aren't going to respond to direct comments there is no chance that they will take remarks made on a different thread like this to heart, is there?

Maggiemaybe

Not for the first time I haven’t a clue what’s going on or which responses on what thread have caused the problem. Or even what the problem is.

Wouldn’t it be better just to address any issues on the thread itself?

I totally agree ?‍♀️

I agree with Lucca and Maw That was my first thought too