Left feeling upset by Mother's Day

I think it's a load of commercial hoo ha quite honestly, having said that being totally ignored on such a day would be hurtful commiserations to you Fartooyoung and anyone else who felt hurt by omission. I did wake up on Sunday not realising it was Mother's Day, easily done when we no longer have our own mothers any more. Of course offspring can be inconsiderate, I'm sure I was in my younger days, although I always sent my mother a card and once she was widowed I always took her somewhere nice for a Mother's Day lunch. My less considerate son turned up on Sunday with flowers, chocolates and a card, a gesture I really appreciated, it's not about the money. it's always about the thought. My more considerate son rang me on Sunday to say I've posted the card, still not here though Tuesday morning but he's taking the day off work to take me to lunch on Friday so I appreciate that, although again it's not about the money it's about maintaining the closeness.

I had my second son on Mothering Sunday, the best gift ever!

the past few years i don't get any cards for anything as my son has said "we don't do cards" meaning him and my dil, it is a text saying, happy whatever and check your bank, i am okay with the no present but i like to get a card, i have even said to go to one of the websites and pick a card and they send it. this year i did get a card and i almost burst into tears when he arrived on saturday evening before starting work to deliver it to me with the usual, happy mothers day and check your bank, living on benefits i am grateful for the £300 pound he put in the bank, but it did take a few weeks of telling him i expect a card this year. maybe your dh should have a word with your ac and tell them how upset you have been and next year a text to them from dh to remind them about mothers day in advance.

I would never tell any of my children I expect a card or present, but I would be more than amazed if one of them gave me £300 I would assume its was a mistake.

Thanks notspaghetti - yes, my DiL is a lovely lady. She and my son chose not to have any children. They have a lovely life and their house is super child-free zone. Must also say that they are super Auntie and Uncle

Card arrived today (tuesday) I was a bit bewildered, but on opening it found it was from my eldest g.daughter (now at uni).. Bless her. Will be keeping that card when the others go to recycling.

My daughter informed me a couple of years ago I wouldn't get cards any more. It was the only time she ever gave me an indication about how she felt about me as she would never buy a card with words she didn't mean so I was upset. This year I got a gif saying "Happy Mother's Day!" Nothing more. I just have to keep telling myself that even though our relationship has been difficult, at least she marked the occasion.
I think the way our children treat us as family is far more important so value your relationship and don't worry about a bit of paper. Younger people just don't do cards in the same way as we do.

Mother’s Day should be banned!
So many people get upset on this day, those who haven’t got their mothers,estranged mothers, those who can’t be mothers, those with children who carnt be bothered,it’s awful.

If my children forgot, my husband would let them know how upset I was. Fortunately I have a wonderful DD who organises her two older brothers every year on my birthday and Mother’s Day.

Card, present and and floral plant from eldest and from husband. Phone calls once my husband put it on family WhatsApp. One child, zero response (mh issues). So I am hurt too. I went to visit my mother with card and flowers etc. 😥

I think your feelings are very understandable. I think it's your husband's job to tell your offspring that they're being "unintentionally" hurtful. I'm sure it's just careless of them. A text costs nothing. You just want to feel "remembered." They just need to stick a bl∅∅dy reminder in their e-diaries!

No cards from the daughter whose partner is manager of a card shop(!)😐

Sleepygran, we can't eradicate everything in life because some people find it difficult. On that basis you'd eradicate Christmas because some people don't have families, Valentines Day because people don't feel loved, Birthdays because they don't have people to celebrate with, etc. We have to learn to cope with some grief in order to give us the armoury to cope with adversity. Sadly, losing our parents is part and parcel of the circle of life.
Maybe these things shouldn't be so commercialised but that is a different argument.

Same daughter also sent NO cards at all (orgifts) on mine or her brothers birthdays last year!🤨

My son and his wife usually invite us over for Mother’s Day , however this year we saw them just before and they gave me a present “ just in case “ they didn’t see me so I guessed I wouldn’t be seeing them , at first I was hurt , but then realised he had to take his children back
Mid morning so they could be with their mum and his in law was having an op later that day . Life had got in the way of what is really an Americanism . I was just happy to get sweets which I don’t eat - constant diet but I know he will when he comes over !! 😂

I agree Icanhandthemback- i lost my mum over 25 years ago now- i still miss her- but i also love my adult children & my grandchildren and love to receive something or share the day with them, of course i do.

And as for dd whose sent nothing- No we havent event fallen out.🤔

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Think it is very thoughtless not to at least phone you. It is hurtful. But they may just not have realised it was Mothers Day. If it were my son next time you speak to your AC, I would mention that you were a little hurt by lack of contact on the day, and just leave it at that.

I miss Woolworths..🫤 it was a good 'go-to' for little children or grandchildren to go spend their pocket money on a little card or gift for mum or nan.

I gave up on this many years ago - mother's day and birthdays often go unacknowledged by my son. However, when I need him he's there and has been my rock on several occasions when I've been overwhelmed by things. It's just a day on a calendar when all said and done!

Not knowing or caring when Mothers' Day is is a great cushioning device. As with Valentine's and other days when people are supposed - by the relevant businesses - to feel obliged to send cards or whatever, most of it is just a con.

One can be appreciated as a mother any day. I am, luckily, so a special day for it is unnecessary. i imagine this is so for most people so if one feels let down by Mothers' Day, something is rotten in the state of Denmark Family, I suspect.

I can understand you feeling upset op! I’m lucky like that my four AC don’t forget, I’m not really a fan of Mother’s Day since I lost my mum, my Dh says mothers day is every day lol. As is Father’s Day. And yes I’m glad you have a good relationship with your children and that’s the main thing, 💐

i was the same no card never sends one no phone call never calls no text does sometimes send one disappointed well yes our relationship been very off on her choice over the years but recently I thought we were on good terms still never mind I didnt really expect anything

I am full of sympathy for those who do not send cards for any occasion. Both the cards and the postage have become very dear - I can make dinner for two people for what it costs to buy and send cards.

However, a text message or an e-mail would not cost much, so if Mother's Day is something you have always celebrated and it means something to you (it doesn't to me) then I feel your children ought to try to remember it.

But I applaud your decision to do something nice yourself next mother's day instead of waiting around for a greeting that probably doesn't turn up.

FarTooYoungForThis
You say they don’t do any occasion , is that cards and presents? If you didn’t give either would it bother them ? Only asking as Manfriend doesn’t do anything for any of his family but says he wouldn’t bother if he didn’t get anything. I’m sorry but the “ too busy “ doesn’t wash with me, a text takes a minute!!